I just got back from a doctor of sorts and this is what she said (basically):
Modern psychology begins with the premise that something is wrong with you. This is never true.
If you look up your butthole, all you're gonna see is crap. If you look at your problems, all you're gonna see is problems. This negative attitude only makes the problem worse.
social anxietysocial and spiritual challenges. I just did something I never have done before tonight. I walked into a bar. And I have a feeling of pride in myself that I've never had before. Because I dropped that faulty premise.
But I have this question: This doctor proposed this: People will judge you, reject you, if you judge and reject yourself. They won't forgive you if you forgive yourself.
This doesn't make it right to reject people. I know some awkward, exhausting people who I don't reject. I put a lot into my choices of how I interact with people. So, if you go around not forgiving yourself, and you find that someone doesn't forgive you (for your social shortcomings), wouldn't that be a good test to see if people are worth your time? If so, why does this hurt so much for the person with social anxiety?