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Being a child. Done that. Been there. What to think of it?

Ghost of the dead horse

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I've had a problematic idea of childhood. In a few lines,

-So I wore diapers back then? Shut up already. This is now, not back then.
-Someone held me on her lap when I was a child? Don't remember the past, this is now.
-I emptied the whole contents of the fridge on the floor? Well, that was that animal, 3 years old. I relate to that person as much as I could relate to unicellular organisms that we're supposed to be developed from.
-Pic of me at young age? I had unattractive naivety and a wrong haircut. I understand it's a mandatory shame for everyone. I envy those who got through it with less shame.
-You're telling me you took care of me, and I had diarrhea one day? I'm thinking, it's a pity that young persons must be taken care of at young age, we should be born self-sufficient without the need of a caretaker.
-I was like XYZ back then? That's a disgrace. Now my values are individuality, honor, capability, independence - none of which I could do back then. None of them were available to me. I was a damned disgrace of a person. I didn't provide my own money. I didn't make my own food. I behaved like a kid, it was a disgrace.
-I wasn't knowledgeable enough to make good decisions on my own life. That's completely .. uhh.. now.. this is no joke, if I would cry, I would cry at this point. This is fucking insane. No-one should live like this. It was terrible. Oh my god. I am not joking with you. This point ... this last point.. this is terrible. I was a damned bag of amoeba back then. Oh my god.

I could go on and on but you get the point.

So, what do you think of your childhood, as thinking from the viewpoint of someone who's not a child?
 

Ben Dover

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I wish that childhood would just never end.

I mean honestly, who wants real world problems which you have to find real world solutions to? Everything was simpler as a kid! My biggest worry was whether or not I was going to be getting an N64 for christmas or not...
 

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Being helpless is a disgrace?

Come on. We evoluted like that. You could be ashamed too of having to grow in a womb - the ultimate helplessness.

I can understand feeling awkward when people are gushing about you-as-baby. It IS embarrassing - especially if you don't remember as much. They are talking about something and you can't relate - and that something is you...

However, I don't mind as much. Right now I'm trying to remember instances where people were talking about me as a child - and I only remember complimentory/funny ones. Not diaper ones - I think nobody in my vicinity finds it interesting, as everyone wears diapers as a baby. On the other hand, there was only one child in the neighbourhood afraid of the number zero.
 

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I wish that childhood would just never end.

I mean honestly, who wants real world problems which you have to find real world solutions to? Everything was simpler as a kid! My biggest worry was whether or not I was going to be getting an N64 for christmas or not...

But you get more priveleges as an adult, although I do agree the added responsibility sucks.
 

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It all seems pretty vague to me but pretty good in general.
 

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I had an awesome childhood.

There's not a single part of it I would change if given the opportunity.

The triumphs and tragedies alike made me who I am today, and I'm at peace with myself and the world around me. :headphne:
 

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Maybe a bit unorthodox and I saw some things I probably shouldn't have. All and all I had a great childhood.
 

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I wish that I was still a child... I love being babied :D
 

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It kind of confuses me. I'll watch home videos from when I was 5 or 6, and think, "There's no way in hell that's me." I can't wrap my brain around it. I was loud, obnoxious, and thought I knew absolutely everything (yeah, even at that young of an age). Now, well...I'm quite the opposite.

It makes me wonder if I'll think that same thing about 21-me when I'm 40 or something. *shudder*
 

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I vaguely miss my very early childhood sometimes. Like before the age of 6 or 7. I have extreme nostalgia for things from the time period in which I spent my formative years. I do not feel disgust for my child-self at all. We were all children once.

But I guess it can be annoying when older relatives insist on continuing to see us as children when we have long since grown up.
 

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Overall, I truly enjoyed my childhood.

Actually I think it is important to be a kid at heart, but be able to handle responsibilities as an adult.

I understand some people don't have the best childhood, so all I can say is learn from your past and live for today.
 

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Overall, I truly enjoyed my childhood.

Actually I think it is important to be a kid at heart, but be able to handle responsibilities as an adult.

I understand some people don't have the best childhood, so all I can say is learn from your past and live for today.

Still working on the second part of the second sentence...


Either way I don't think I have grown up too much since I was little. I still over think things, I still am rebellious, and lazy. I just know more than I did back then, and it's kind of a bummer :D
 

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Santtu said:
So, what do you think of your childhood, as thinking from the viewpoint of someone who's not a child?
Thinking of my childhood makes me want to build a time machine so I can go back and slap myself upside the head. I don't even want to go there, but I will anyway.

To call my younger self independent would be to say too little--I had to do everything my way, and if I didn't get my way, oh dear. My wishes were usually in line with those of other people, thank goodness, but when they weren't, I sometimes engaged in behavior so ridiculous that I refuse to describe it.

I also lacked self-discipline. I did things of such a vulgar and otherwise uncivilized nature that the very thought of them fills me with bitter shame. I blame it on a lack of role models; my independence forbade me to have any such thing, and even if it didn't, I had a poor selection to choose from.

I also had little happiness. I suffered from such extreme sensitivity that the smallest thing could hurt me; I cried oceans. And for that reason, I often regarded people, particularly those in authority, as mean and abusive. No one can claim perfect gentleness, of course, but I blew every little slight of theirs out of all reasonable proportion.

And that's enough. I feel like I just opened a can of toxic waste, and I'd like to close it now. Just don't think badly of me: I'm a different person today.
 

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I get you. No, I won't think badly of you :hug: Thank you for sharing.

People may sometimes hate some external circumstances in their childhood. Still, I haven't gotten much understanding over the concept that I'd hate the person I was then. I am surprised and almost disgusted that someone would think of "bonding" with me by reminding how they changed my diapers or something of the kind. Well, there's a life lesson with that.. we are born without dignity, and we have to make it all by ourselves.
 
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