Okay, my mother recently complained that I don't like to make decisions and always try to force someone else to make them. But then I pointed out some exceptions, and she realized it only applies to certain kinds of decisions. We found there were specific categories of decisions that I'm not as good at.
1. Technical Decisions. I'm apparently good at making decisions as far as what kind of software to use, what kind of hardware to install in a computer. I'm also good at figuring out what kind of cable is needed to hook something up, what kind of telephone service to order, getting tech support over the phone, etc.
2. Monetary Decisions. I'm good at prioritizing bills that need to be paid, cutting out trivial things, managing money, etc.
3. Life Decisions. I'm good at making big decisions, like where I want to live, whether I want to go to school, what I want to do in school, what kind of jobs I'm most interested in, etc.
1. Interpersonal Decisions. I usually make these, but tend to find them annoying, change them at the last minute more than I should, and/or make incredibly lazy/sloppy decisions that minimize the amount of focus I have to spend on this area. I seem to make somewhat better decisions here when family isn't involved, though.
2. Trivial Decisions. I'm not good at making decisions like what I want to eat, what I want to wear, personal hygiene, etc. I tend to try and pressure my mother or other people into making these decisions for me so I can work within that structure. I do like these things decided, though.
3. Minute Decisions. I'm not good at making the little decisions that follow big decisions. I tend to sort of expect things to fall into place, don't like to think about the details after I've already made a decision.
The one about food is especially funny.
Mom: Are you hungry?
Me: I could be hungry. How long has it been since I ate?
Mom: About 5 hours.
Me: How long do I usually wait in between meals?
Mom: About 5 hours.
Me: I guess I'm hungry, then.
Mom: Where do you want something to eat from?
Me: Where do YOU want something to eat from?
Mom: I don't care, I already ate. Pick something!
Me: Well, where did I eat the previous two days?
Mom: At restaurants X and Y.
Me: What's the closest restaurant other than X and Y?
Me: Well, go to Z.
Mom: What do you want from there?
Me: The same thing I usually get, obviously.
Mom: But there's more than one thing you usually get!
Me: Well, get me the one I didn't get last time I went, then.
Mom: Sigh. Okay, bye.
Insert a lot more mutual whining and complaining about each other, and you pretty much have what happens when I'm asked about what I want to eat. You don't even what to know what happens when I have to decide about what we're going to eat when we eat in.
So, anyway, what is it that makes hard decisions hard, and easy decisions easy?