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    Default Are you a "Difficult Person"?

    Are you a "difficult person?"


    The following descriptions are compiled from "Dealing with People You Can't Stand" by Dr. Rick Brinkman and Dr. Rick Kirschner and "Coping with Difficult People" by Dr. Robert M. Bramson.


    Which of these, if any, do you relate to the most? :



    Sherman Tanks

    Pushy, abrupt, and even hostile. Attack until others move out of the way or accept their view of the world. Aggravated by too much discussion or friendly chat.

    Positive intent: "Get it done"



    Snipers

    Hide in crowds. Use jokes and sarcasm to sidetrack, humiliate, and embarrass people. May roll eyes to distract you. Can become tanks if exposed. Friendly snipers use humor to get attention from the group.

    Positive intent: "Get it done" and "Get appreciated"



    Exploders

    Feel thwarted and threatened so they "act out" through tantrums. May storm out of the room or attack others verbally without explanation. May cry or look silently enraged.

    Positive intent: "Get appreciated"



    Know-it-all Experts

    Extremely confident in their abilities. Very accurate and thorough. Tend to ignore other opinions. Quick to criticize and pick at others. Don't like to be contradicted.

    Positive intent: "Get it done"



    Think-they-know-it-alls

    Act like experts. Charismatic or enthusiastic talkers. Like to pontificate about subject in front of others, even though they are not really experts. Tend to be generalists in many fields.

    Positive intent: "Get appreciated"



    Super-agreeables

    Try to please everyone by doing what is asked while sometimes feeling put upon. Over-commit so much that they perform poorly. Use humor to reveal issues.

    Positive intent: "Get along"



    Indecisives

    Avoid making decisions for fear of harming a personal relationship. Hint or beat around the bush to remain honest. Try to postpone decisions until they are not necessary.

    Positive intent: "Get along"



    Unresponsives

    Withdraw from others when frustrated. Stop talking although they appear angry. Wash hands of decision rather than try to influence it. Don't like to rush into action without understanding the background and the details of a project.

    Positive intent: "Get it right"



    Negativists

    Feel hopeless to enact change. Destroy morale. React strongly to problem solving or process changes. Sound bitterer and more hopeless than complainers.

    Positive intent: "Get it right"



    Complainers

    Whine and speak in generalizations about problems. Focus on problems, not solutions. Believe someone else should fix the problem.

    Positive intent: "Get it right"





    By the way, there are some great coping strategies for dealing with "difficult people".

    If you are interested, you can check out this link: Quick Reference for Coping with Difficult People



    And for the record:

    Although I have probably been all these things at one time or another, I relate most to "Exploders" and "Think-they-know-it-alls."
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    Great thread!

    I am trying to put a hand on which ones I fit into, and see myself a little in each one.

    But the two most prominent ones are probably indecisive, sniper, and negativity.
    Is it that by its indefiniteness it shadows forth the heartless voids and immensities of the universe, and thus stabs us from behind with the thought of annihilation, when beholding the white depths of the milky way?

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    Great post Wonka.

    I relate a lot to Sniper and Know-It-All-Expert. But mostly Sniper.
    () 9w8-3w4-7w6 tritype.

    sCueI (primary Inquisition)

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    Super agreeable and unresponsive.
    “I made you take time to look at what I saw and when you took time to really notice my flower, you hung all your associations with flowers on my flower and you write about my flower as if I think and see what you think and see—and I don't.”
    ― Georgia O'Keeffe

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    I can see myself in each of these as well. But I guess I can relate the most to the Sniper, although I don't like to humiliate and embarrass people unless I'm really frustrated and on edge.

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    I guess I can relate most to the unresponsives..

    "yea whatever. do whatever you want."

    (silent the rest of the night unless a direct question is asked to me.) then..

    "yea whatever. Like I said. whatever."

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    Hey guys,

    Victor was unavailable for comment so he sent his thoughts on this topic through me.

    He wanted you all to know that you're delusional children with zero emotional depth and big holes where your souls oughtta be...

    Where's your scientific proof that Sherman Tanks exist???????? CLEARLY THIS SYSTEM IS USELESS
    If you could be anything you want, I bet you'd be disappointed--am I right?

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    I see I see..

    So Victor is a sniper...

    very interesting...

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    Sniper and Unresponsive.
    I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.

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    I get the most feedback that I am Unresponsive and Negativist.


    The people who I think are the most difficult seem to find me difficult in return.

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