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  • Passive-Aggressive Peacemaking

    26 59.09%
  • Abrasive Honesty

    9 20.45%
  • I'm a fucking nitwit, so this poll is too vague for me/ I don't like either one

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    Quote Originally Posted by marmalade.sunrise View Post
    I don't think you should stop, because then you're just letting passive-aggressive people get to you.

    You can look at it this way: the point of your poll was to learn who to avoid because they prefer to be passive aggressive.

    Yeah, I'll create threads if I really feel like it, but for now, I'm just tired.

    It's giving me a headache.
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    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post
    But no one attacked you initially. People asked for clarification of your OP and it seems to me like you were the first person to take it there.

    It seems to me that you misinterpreted iwakar's and lostinnerspace's posts and then you got offended. This is what I'm saying when you seem unreasonably sensitive and then extend claws when there was no basic understanding.
    OK --well that's just not true.

    The posts are in chronological order, and they speak for themselves.

    So, I really have nothing more to say to you about this.
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    I voted on the wrong one, by mistake.

    So, which annoys me most?
    Passive-agressive peacemaking.
    Try to clearly state what you think, feel, want or expect from a situation, and what brought you to each of those conclusions. Open yourself up to questions and suggestion. Ask questions before reacting. And don't take things so personally; odds are high that's an incredibly shortsighted perspective in terms of actual resolution.

    Problem-solving becomes so beautifully simple.. I fucking promise, kids.
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    04/25 04:20:35 Patches: Don't listen to lex. She wants to birth a litter of kittens. She doesnt get to decide whats creepy

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    i appreciate the asses of society
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wonkavision View Post
    Please vote on the above poll, and feel free to comment as well.
    Poll options provided by OP:
    Passive-Aggressive Peacemaking
    Abrasive Honesty
    I'm a fucking nitwit, so this poll is too vague for me/ I don't like either one
    Quote Originally Posted by Wonkavision View Post
    No, that wouldn't make you a nitwit---just a sensotard.

    Nitwits refuse to answer simple questions because they think everything is one big analytical jerk-off session.
    Quote Originally Posted by Wonkavision View Post
    Well, at least you admit it.

    The other bastards claim they are just trying to understand.

    What a crock of shit that is most of the time.
    Quote Originally Posted by Wonkavision View Post
    Uh-oh.....

    You're approaching dangerous levels of nitwititude. LOL.

    But, fair enough---it sounds like a reasonable answer.

    You set an inflammatory tone and I believe (ironically) a passive aggressive tone with these initial posts. I assumed you wouldn't lob labels you weren't able to catch.

    For what it's worth, I apologize if you felt attacked by my commentary. It was not my intention. I think the tone of the poll and consequent posts is the only issue at hand. I doubt anyone found anything truly objectionable about the question itself if you're still hoping for legitimate feedback.

    Quote Originally Posted by Wonkavision View Post
    The posts are in chronological order, and they speak for themselves.

    So, I really have nothing more to say to you about this.
    On this, we agree. But I hope you don't throw the baby out with the bathwater. Productive discussion can still take place if that's really what you want. I sincerely hope you reconsider your efforts after a cool-off. If it helps, I'll similarly edit my post with your Jeffster quote to clear the table and start fresh.

    If you took the trouble to return and read this, thank you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by toonia View Post
    I will say that when people get abrasive, or really direct, that it is important they don't confuse their own opinions with the "Truth".
    Important point.

    Thanks for the book recommendation. Another good one is Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man - in spite of the title, it's useful for dealing with anyone, not just men or those with whom you live: bosses, relatives, etc.
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    Passive aggressiveness generally bothers me the most, with the exception of unwarranted, unneeded hostility, at least the former is easy to ignore.

    Attacking people, not the argument, with snark or defensive aggression and very little humour is pretty effen annoying and immature.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trinity View Post
    Passive aggressiveness generally bothers me the most, with the exception of unwarranted, unneeded hostility, at least the former is easy to ignore.

    Attacking people, not the argument, with snark or defensive aggression and very little humour is pretty effen annoying and immature.
    I'd definitely agree with this, though I can also find explosive hostility more tolerable/easier to manage/quicker to resolve than the passive-agressive behavior..

    I'd rather disarm one huge bomb than tiptoe through an endless minefield.
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    04/25 04:20:35 Patches: Don't listen to lex. She wants to birth a litter of kittens. She doesnt get to decide whats creepy

    02/16 23:49:38 ygolo: Lex is afk
    02/16 23:49:45 Cimarron: she's doing drugs with Jack

    03/05 19:27:41 Time: You can't make chat morbid. Lex does it naturally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexicon View Post
    I can also find explosive hostility more tolerable/easier to manage/quicker to resolve than the passive-agressive behavior..
    I agree it's quicker to resolve, there's no questions over misunderstanding nor is there often much sympathy from others for their behaviour, plus of course direct bluntness can be met with more direct bluntness when confronting.

    Confront someone who is being passive aggressive and they'll respond with emotion in an attempt to manipulate and some people respond to that by interfering and trying to rescue them in order to resolve the 'misunderstandings' which drags things out.

    The former is also more likely to agree that they are being argumentative, the later is generally convinced it's everyone else who's causing problems and they are the one being righteous.

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    I see Passive Aggressiveness as being incredibly selfish, self centered, unproductive, and annoying.
    Is it that by its indefiniteness it shadows forth the heartless voids and immensities of the universe, and thus stabs us from behind with the thought of annihilation, when beholding the white depths of the milky way?

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