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  • Passive-Aggressive Peacemaking

    26 59.09%
  • Abrasive Honesty

    9 20.45%
  • I'm a fucking nitwit, so this poll is too vague for me/ I don't like either one

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
    Hmm...

    Yeah I had checked wikipedia but wasn't satisfied with the answer. I much prefer your example. Well I guess the issue here is whether or not the passive-aggressiveness we are detecting is really there. If it really IS there (meaning it's an underhanded move), yeah, it irritates me more than abrasive honesty.
    Once it is introduced into a dynamic it can make a real mess of the communication because you can't always be certain where it is taking place and when it is imagined. There is a great little book that talks about and clarifies this issue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iwakar View Post
    Two very different varieties of NF, we are.
    Yeah, we are different.

    For one thing, I communicate like a relatively normal human being, while you speak like Yoda.

    But I guess if you see yourself as some kind of a sage, you're bound to talk like a Jedi.


    Quote Originally Posted by iwakar View Post
    What are you aiming at with your poll?

    Well, from one Intuitive to another, I can understand your desire to know the deeper meanings of things.

    There may be all kinds of subconscious reasons why I would ask certain questions, and I'm sure you have some kind of Jedi Mind-Reading technique for that.

    But the simple fact is, I'm an Ne dominant, so I often probe for information without a specific agenda in mind.

    I simply wanted to know which approach irritates people more.

    I would have asked additional questions if I wanted to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wonkavision View Post
    Yeah, we are different.

    For one thing, I communicate like a relatively normal human being, while you speak like Yoda.

    But I guess if you see yourself as some kind of a sage, you're bound to talk like a Jedi.





    Well, from one Intuitive to another, I can understand your desire to know the deeper meanings of things.

    There may be all kinds of subconscious reasons why I would ask certain questions, and I'm sure you have some kind of Jedi Mind-Reading technique for that.

    But the simple fact is, I'm an Ne dominant, so I often probe for information without a specific agenda in mind.

    I simply wanted to know which approach irritates people more.

    I would have asked additional questions if I wanted to.
    Why the hostility?
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    Quote Originally Posted by iwakar View Post
    Why the hostility?
    I've been wondering that myself, but he won't tell me, he just keeps attacking my character without provocation.
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    It depends on intent.

    I tend to like passive-aggressive peacefulness, if it's meant to really be fair/diplomatic for both sides.. however, I also tend to prefer honesty, just not abrasiveness<--- not too good on one's self-esteem, I think.

    Although, growing up with tough love, I think I can somewhat handle it.. just do not prefer so much of it, since I think Respect is most important.

    Sometimes, people joke around in a really blunt manner- I try not to take what they say too literally, unless it's meant to really ridicule/make someone look bad in the most heinous way..

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    Quote Originally Posted by iwakar View Post
    Why the hostility?
    Why the hostility?

    Because I find your Passive-Aggressive Peacemaking attempts extremely irritating.

    If you truly want to be friendly, try relating to me as an equal, rather than as a pet project.


    How about if I drop the hostility and you drop the psychoanalysis?
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    I think that passive-aggressive peace making is okay sometimes, and extremely necessary in some situations, but relying on it always is lame and causes more problems.

    People who are EXTREMELY passive aggressive make me feel hostile and want to be brutally honest just to call them on their bullshit.

    I think it's good to clear the air sometimes, especially in close relationships, or where someone is consistently being a prick.

    So I picked abrasive honesty.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wonkavision View Post
    Why the hostility?

    Because I find your Passive-Aggressive Peacemaking attempts extremely irritating.

    If you truly want to be friendly, try relating to me as an equal, rather than as a pet project.


    How about if I drop the hostility and you drop the psychoanalysis?
    I've ordered baked potatoes that were less loaded than your approach to this thread. If you accuse people of nitwittery while exercising a polarizing subclass of it yourself, expect to be called out.

    As for your poll, I'd opt for a third choice that doesn't require I consider myself a nitwit for not choosing one of your prefab. options. Arguably, your refusal to do so is the passive-aggressive behavior you so detest.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeffster View Post
    I've been wondering that myself, but he won't tell me, he just keeps attacking my character without provocation.
    Jeffster, you are [...]

    If you actually read the private message I sent you, [...] I pity you to the point of tears.
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    Quote Originally Posted by iwakar View Post
    I've ordered baked potatoes that were less loaded than your approach to this thread. If you accuse people of nitwittery while exercising a polarizing subclass of it yourself, expect to be called out.

    As for your poll, I'd opt for a third choice that doesn't require I consider myself a nitwit for not choosing one of your prefab. options. Arguably, your refusal to do so is the passive-aggressive behavior you so detest.
    Good one.

    You're no longer worth responding to, but by all means, carry on.
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