This is a thread to talk about love and relationships, in particular, different psychological research and theories concerning love and relationships. This thread is inspired by John Gottman's research on what makes marriage work and predictors of divorce, so I'll start with that. I have always been interested in the secrets behind long-term successful marriages. I am not married (and have yet to be in a serious relationship), but my parents have been married for 29 years. Their relationship has been tumultuous and extremely rocky at times, yet they have maintained a strong bond through some really rough waters. I have been there with my friends and family through their many relationships and I have had a few stops and starts of my own.
In another thread, KarenParker brought up John Gottman's book "The 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work". It just so happened that I was on an advice website today, and someone was recommending his other book, "What Predicts Divorce".
His article on the seven principles is here.
The four predictors of divorce are here ,and an interview with him can be found here.
Complain/Criticize, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling
That's some good background info and I don't want my first post to be too long, so if anyone has anything to say that would be great, or else I'll just give some of my thoughts and impressions later.