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    Default How do you make decisions?

    In the MBTI system, part of the way type is delineated is by how a person makes decisions using "feeling" or "thinking". This concept is simple enough in theory, but how does it play out in application? There is a great deal of interesting research on how the brain processes decisions which can be added later, but I wanted to at least start with a few basic questions for people to explain their decision making processes. What are the primary considerations you include when making the following decisions?

    Choosing a career

    Falling in love with someone (edited by request after post 23: Choosing to be in a relationship with someone)

    Choosing a pet

    Buying a car

    Grocery shopping

    Buying a pair of shoes
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    I make decisions poorly and brainfog doesn't help either, I've learned to stop asking for much and deciding what I should need so I avoid decisions that are tough, depends on how switched on my mind is.


    Choosing a career - I still haven't. However the process goes will I finish once I chose what I want to start, will I be switched on enough to enjoy the subject area or bored with it. I've been studying several areas such as business, accounting, IT, engineering etc and none give me that goosebump pimple eureka feeling.

    Falling in love with someone - Needs attention, the opportunity to fall in love has been rare and the decision process once in a committed relationship becomes easier because then you have a stronger focus, better purpose towards that which you wish to strive for, which has happened and dissolved too. I just need to fall in love.

    Choosing a pet - don't have one, although should I consider to have a pet then my decision is based on security and company so would probably have a dog.

    Buying a car - business car, that cancels out my decision already huh, I'm not fussy. A car is a car, as long as its roadworthy and is maintained properly I'll buy the car that feels or rather that I think will last the distance and is good value and doesn't break down often.

    Grocery shopping - I tend to buy the essentials and not impulse buy, so in that sense I'm a sensible shopper.

    Buying a pair of shoes - well my shoes are like 5+ years old, so I should buy new ones.

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    Quote Originally Posted by toonia View Post
    Choosing a career
    I would choose a career based on how likely I am to get into it (Thinking), how difficult it is (Thinking), and whether it's something I can personally stand to do on a regular basis (Feeling).

    Falling in love with someone
    I don't consider that a decision so much as a reaction. I've never experienced it, so I have no clue.

    Choosing a pet
    I refuse to ever get another pet, because I miss my cat too much, and I never want to go through that again (Feeling).

    Buying a car
    I would choose it primarily based on cost to purchase/maintain and fuel efficiency (Thinking), and secondarily on appearance and style (Feeling).

    Grocery shopping
    I would get the all the food I like (Feeling), unless I had budget issues that forced me to buy only the cheapest food (Thinking).
    Buying a pair of shoes
    I would almost certainly get the ones I thought looked the nicest and fit my personality (Feeling).

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    Choosing a career
    Am I good at doing this sort of thing? How hard is it to get into? Do I like the field/subject matter? Does it at least offer the prospect of financial security? Does it provide opportunity for travel?

    Falling in love with someone
    It's probably arguable whether we choose to "fall in love," right? That aside, I've never been in love, so I'll have to pass on this one.

    Choosing a pet
    Do I have time to properly take care of the animal? Do I have enough money for upkeep and medical expenses? Do I have enough living space? Will it be safe in my dwelling? In the case that I have to travel, will it be easy to transport? Do I like it/think it's cute?

    Buying a car
    Around how much will it cost? Does the brand have a reputation for making sturdy cars that will last a while (i.e., will not break down frequently and/or contain parts that mechanically fail)? Is the gas mileage good? How many miles are on this car already? What accessories come with it? Can it drive safely in the snow? Does it aesthetically appeal to me?

    Grocery shopping
    What do I need to restock? What ingredients do I need? How much can I afford? What do I feel like eating? What is cheapest that tastes good?

    Buying a pair of shoes
    What is the occasion? Will they match? Can I afford them? Will they last a while? What is cheapest pair that appeals to me aesthetically?
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    Choosing a career
    Oh. People choose them? Kinda fell from one thing to another getting more qualifications along the way in areas that I was interested in and good at.

    Falling in love with someone
    Thatís not really a choice.

    Choosing a pet
    1st cat: Was brought home by my housemate at the time who wanted me to adopt him, he was simply toooo cute to resist when he was there even though I had told her numerous times I didn't want one. I was a sucker.
    2nd cat: He needed company, apparently, so my housemate (who worked with animals) took me to a lady who rescued animals and I picked out a little black one.

    If I was choosing a dog I would work out what breed would be best first then go with impulse. The reason I don't have one now is because I know couldn't give one enough attention.

    Buying a car
    1st car: Went with my dad, test drove a few then when with one that I enjoyed driving and he was happy with.
    2nd car: I worked out what I wanted in general specifications than talked to those whose opinion on the matter I trusted to decide on a specific car, than I hired someone who buys cars at auction to get me one.
    3rd car: I bought the work car I had been driving instead of getting a new one cause it worked and I couldn't be bothered going through the fuss.

    Grocery shopping
    Got to be honest, very little planning goes into this. I work out what I want, get as much of it as I can remember than kick myself later when I see all the things I forgot.

    Buying a pair of shoes
    For fashion/comfort shoes I go with whatever I like that is a fair price. For sports shoes I go with what is right for my feet.

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    Choosing a career
    Career? What's that?

    Falling in love with someone
    Does one have a decision here?

    Choosing a pet
    Don't have a pet. Won't.

    Buying a car
    Don't drive. Never have, never will. Horrible things.

    Grocery shopping
    I buy what I'm out of. It tends toward the breads and cheeses and carrots. I make extensive lists, then forget to bring them, and buy what I can remember. Usually not that hard, as it tends toward the same dozen things.

    Buying a pair of shoes
    Something handsome that will last for years and years, and ideally doesn't cost all that much. My secondary pair (primary until a year ago), I've had since... I don't know. 1999? Earlier? My last partner would destroy shoes in a matter of months. I never understood how.

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    Choosing a career
    I go by whatever seems interesting, and how well I think I could perform in such a field. Depending on how obscure or exclusive the field is, I occasionally think about the likelyhood of being able to support myself, but most of the time I tend to ignore this.

    Falling in love with someone
    As mostly everyone has said, I don't see how this can be a choice. Then again, I've never experienced it myself, so who knows.

    Choosing a pet
    Ah, this one is simple. I'm allergic to practically every kind of animal. I did once consider getting a small shark, but I decided against that due to the likelyhood of me neglecting the thing to death.

    Buying a car
    Not applicable to me at this point.

    Grocery shopping
    I go mostly by the chances of me eating a certain food, rather than what I should be eating. This tends to eliminate the possibility that I'll buy food that I just don't touch until its expiry date. Still probably not the smartest way to go, though.

    Buying a pair of shoes
    For everyday wear, I tend to go by what's comfortable, affordable, and that I think looks decent. For something more sportlike, I tend to go by how it'll affect my feet, and then by price.
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    Choosing a career
    Whether it will make me happy. Right now I'm still torn between become a slave to the system because at least it pays, or following my dream which may not pay off for many more years. I'm still opting for the latter because it's what I love and I know I will feel good if I get there.


    Falling in love with someone
    Well I don't exactly choose to fall in love, it's a feeling that I go with. If I feel that I love you, then I must indeed love you and sadly I've never looked any deeper than that because that's all I needed.

    Choosing a pet
    Seriously, my decision making never happens, I walk past a pet in the window, go "awww that's so adorable, OMG I want one".....go in and buy it.

    The only thing that stops me right now, is knowledge that I couldn't afford another one, and yet I believe that another kitten in the window would throw away the wise deicision making part of me and fall back into "awwww, OMG I want one" mode.

    Buying a car
    Does it look good. Haha such a bad reason to choose a car.


    Grocery shopping
    My grocery shopping is created off of menus that I create to plan out the weeks meals. I make the menu, make the list off of the menu and shop according to what is on that list because I know it's needful for the meals I have planned.

    The only other thing I may consider is which brand is on a saving deals over which one isn't.


    Buying a pair of shoes
    When the shoes are too scruffy to wear anymore, I go out and replace them, same for boots and sandals.

    I will choose them based on the wow factor, sometimes breaking my bank and suffering the consequences financially AFTER I own the shoes.

    Ie I went out to buy a pair of boots for £50 because that is what my budget could afford, I ended up spending £130 because that made me happier. The boots in question were worth it though, I still don't regret that even if I did have major trouble with my money for the next 2 weeks.
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    Choosing a career
    + Financial security. Suitability to personality & talents. Academic requirements. Field competition. Monetary concerns (insurance, office, etc.) Average work hours per week.

    Falling in love with someone
    + Compatibility in personality, values, interests and life goals. Attraction isn't enough to compensate for major differences, especially if it concerns our lifestyle. I may continue to love them, but I won't initiate a relationship. The romantic notions usually subside into a deep, platonic appreciation. I take my friendships seriously, so it's no loss.

    Choosing a pet
    + Looks. Health. Personality. Amount of attention/exercise required. (The less, the better. I'm not good with care-taking.) Shedding and drooling frequency. Space, energy, time, and money to spare.

    Buying a car
    + Pure practicality and efficiency in every way.

    Grocery shopping
    + Spending limits. Cost. Nutrition. Ease of preparation (Yes, please! My laziness for cooking knows little boundaries.) Size of necessity - avoid excess. Expiration date.

    Buying a pair of shoes
    + Trusted brand name. Style. Compatibility with current closet & personality. Quality. Price.
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    Choosing a career - What makes the most money (although I would work for less if the hours would be better). Do I enjoy it? Is it something challenging?

    Falling in love with someone - I think this is a choice to some degree. Not falling in love but loving that person and building a life together and that depend on compatibility, values, personalities..etc

    Choosing a pet Health and longevity. Then the more obvious things such as temperament, size, care. For instance, I'd love a Newfoundland. Love one. But they are a mess and a great deal of care.

    Buying a car Practicality. Yes I have a big gas sucking SUV but I have 4 kids and their stuff to haul around, tow a boat and bike rack not to mention astronomical grocery shopping.

    Grocery shopping Cost of course but in some areas quality is above all else. Buying in bulk and when it's cost effective. I cook a lot of bulk meals so 25 pounds of chicken or 50 pounds of potatoes isn't strange. I won't skimp on produce, meats, spices and dairy.

    Buying a pair of shoes Can be completely impractical because my husband has somewhat of a shoe fetish imo. Otherwise coordination with an outfit, comfort, cost.
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