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    I'll bet it's not that much different than it is for women, only we are looking for different things.

    I'll admit to anything. It seems like a logical first step towards getting over it. Even back in the day, I knew that honesty could destroy awkwardness.

    Things that have bothered me in the past: I've always felt pretty masculine, but I didn't look like it, and that pissed me off. I wanted to look tough and manly (especially as a teenager) but instead I looked (and still do) boyish and sweet. Baby face, not very hairy, thin facial hair, small jaw instead of a big square one, small round shaped head. The acne into my early 20s didn't help, either. My hair is thin and I've got a receding hairline already.

    I guess I've always wanted to be tall, dark, and handsome, with nice hair and the ability to grow a thick beard if I wanted to.

    Well, that's just not me. There's more things about my body that I like than I dislike. I'm tall enough (5'10''), I'm naturally muscular, I actually like the way my face looks, etc... Acne isn't really a problem anymore.

    Still, I always thought I was attractive and never had a problem with the opposite sex. Cute with a great personality is always just as good as hot, and sometimes better.

    I don't worry about that stuff too often anymore.
    "When a resolute young fellow steps up the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find that it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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    I think I'm fine, the only problem would be that, just like the OP, my nose is slightly crooked due to being hit by a soccer ball when I was 13.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wyst View Post
    5'5"
    That's tall to me

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenocyde View Post
    There's someone for everyone. My little sister is 6'2" and her last bf was 5'8". I'm 5'6" and my last bf was 6'7".
    How'd you end up such drastically different heights? Are you full sisters?
    Okay...sorry to derail

    The guys I've known who were most insecure about their looks are INTPs. I suspect one has an eating disorder. They all had such low views of themselves....it was sad.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LucrativeSid View Post
    I'll bet it's not that much different than it is for women, only we are looking for different things.
    I think it is similar, although perhaps not quite as deeply entrenched. That, and the standards are a hell of a lot more reasonable for men than women!

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    What are body and face image issues like for men?

    If you have these issues, do you often admit them or do you tend to not think about them and use self talk to detract from them?

    I always admit them. I like to make jokes about them to put it out there so that no one can beat me to it. It puts me at ease. Especially online where no one can tell what you look like unless you tell them.

    When are such thoughts likely to come up?

    When I'm around someone I'm attracted to.

    What issues specifically do you have about your own body and face?

    I'm fat, I have a weak chin, and I have a Letterman-esque gap between my front teeth. That said, I do like some things about myself physically. I think I have a nice face and good hair.
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    OK, I guess I'll fess up.

    I most likely suffer from "bigorexia," which would be the psychological state of uneasiness associated with missing a workout.

    Being raised in a military household during the classical age of modern bodybuilding (ahemm....Schwarzenegger, Zane, Waller, Draper, Oliva, Nubret, etc...) put a little bit of pressure on young Alex.

    "THIS - is what you are supposed to look like when you are a grown up; like Daddy. OK? Now let's do some more push ups."



    I am totally OK with it, really, but that's mostly because everything I do is some type of super-fucking-perfection-quest, so I guess at least I am consistent...

    Honestly I care not about my face or gate or style of clothing, these things are but the surface of a man. I am truly more concerned about inner and outer strength, virtue, intent, and an inner sense of duty. Fuck the media and their expectations of me...


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    What are body and face image issues like for men?

    Less bothersome for men, but more severe than for women. Men have relatively low standards. They'll take just about any woman that will unabashedly lay hand to their prick. Women, have high standards, and I happen to be the opposite of everything that society wants in men.
    If you have these issues, do you often admit them or do you tend to not think about them and use self talk to detract from them?

    I admit them, and they compound my already romantically challenged situation.


    When are such thoughts likely to come up?

    Whenever I see any attractive female that doesn't appear to already have a boyfriend and/or actually seem welcoming enough that I have a chance.

    What issues specifically do you have about your own body and face?

    I am too short, blond, becomming slightly fat, not very muscular, and have acne.

    Thank you in advance for any willing to answer these questions.

    Thanks, now find me an ENF female who's single!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Walking Tourist View Post
    Interesting. I tend to believe that men want taller women and that's why men don't find me attractive.

    When I see couples all over the place - or when I've recently been rejected. I will sometimes write it off as 'Well of course, girls want taller guys, no wonder girls don't find me attractive.


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    I however, like taller women. Too bad there's none available that aren't taken / hate me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    The guys I've known who were most insecure about their looks are INTPs. I suspect one has an eating disorder. They all had such low views of themselves....it was sad.
    It's because society is cruel enough to us already, and we can't even get a girl. We really have to go the fugly bars to even have a chance. Then, the only girls that will even take us as people are taken, and the ENFP's are just playing with us. Overall, for us, it's WW3, and we're on the Russian Border.

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