Quote Originally Posted by Park View Post
That's where your wrong, instead of dealing with the pain yourself, you would simply pass it on to others. Being dead, you wouldn't be hurting anymore but the people around you would.
True. But I didn't see it that way at the time. I thought I would be ending everybody's "true" misery. Hence the "distortion".

Quote Originally Posted by toonia View Post
In your post you sound like you did make it through much of it. What worked? What was the best way for others to approach you? If you could paint a hypothetical situation of a depressed person surrounded by people who cared, what is the action/inaction those people should take? What clarifies the distortion in the thinking? I think i currently know people who fit the mode of thinking you describe and am at quite a loss. Any info would be appreciated. (apologies if those are too many questions)
Ultimately, it came down to me relaxing, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I stopped trying to solve non-existent problems, and worrying about things that I didn't really have control over.

This may be disappointing to you, but there is almost nothing you, as a healthy person, can do, except lending a ear and being patient.

To me, it sounds like you are/were depressed also. If you share those experiences, that may help your person feel less alone in the struggle (that helps a lot actually). It is important, when you do this, not to make it a 'competition' of pain, nor a presumption that you know what your person is feeling. If it is simply an attempt to make them feel less alone, without any other tone built in, I think it helps.

It sounds like your particular person is sexually frustrated and depressed. Although, this time loneliness was not my issue. I know what it feels like to think that I am completely undesirable and incapable of getting a date, etc. The only advice I can give is to have your person introduced to many attractive people of the opposite sex (or whatever the appropriate orientation) in low pressure, informal situations.

Lastly, I would say don't make your person, your own personal "project". I know I would feel manipulated, or feel guilty for having someone take so much time.

Also, recruit help from your person's other friends and family. I know this is a harder situation than I would take on alone. Good Luck.