User Tag List

123 Last

Results 1 to 10 of 31

  1. #1
    Plumage and Moult proteanmix's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    Enneagram
    1w2
    Posts
    5,514

    Default Extroverts: How do you experience extroversion?

    When any extroverts out there can tear themselves away from the party they're currently attending (), please take a moment to explain how you experience extroversion.

    What stimulates you? How much stimulation do you need? What is your internal world like? How much alone time do you need and how often do you need it? What comes along with being an extrovert that most people don't realize?

    Thank you for your participation. You may return to your regularly scheduled extroverted activities.
    Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
    Interpersonal Communication Theories and Concepts
    Social Penetration Theory 1
    Social Penetration Theory 2
    Social Penetration Theory 3

  2. #2
    Senior Member Vortex's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    MBTI
    WOLF
    Posts
    277

    Default

    Haha, exactly the sort of question I felt like digging into

    I'm very much stimulated by the company of others (if I happen to be alone, my "company" will often be online or a book). It can be weeks between occurences of "real" alone time. I love discussing things with people, love having a conversation spiralling into beautiful heights, building intricate webs and castles with ideas, fueled by passion about the subject at hand.

    However, I don't think I need stimulation to function. I'm perfectly capable of being alone. Friends will sometimes be annoyed with me not calling or generally disappearing off the face of the earth, but I just feel that time is different to me than it might be to them. In the same vein, I'd be hard pressed to tell you what happened last week, what year I met somebody or how long it's been since I last met a person.

    My internal world. Well, it's a place I like to keep in good shape, since I spend a lot of my time there. I good chunk is designated to cataloguing and recognising patterns and behaviours in the people and world around me. Data collecting, you might say (with added analytic properties constantly in action). A part of me is always watching and commenting on my actions, as if I were reading a book, such as: "she picked up the apple, taking a bite, while staring blankly into space, thinking about what she'd be writing. A few seconds later, her fingers were eagerly stroking the keyboard while she contemplated how ridiculous an exercise it was to write this sort of thing down".
    Obviously, at the same time there'll be a control center deciding on the next action, censoring and allowing and most importantly filtering everything that is to be shown to the outside world.
    Small parts will be occupied with problem solving or understanding something new, much in the same way I do when I dream. That's what it feels like, anyway.
    A huge part will be distracted, day dreaming, thinking about all sorts of scenarios, writing stories in my head and letting me feel alive. That's the important part, but also the part that makes people find me a bit distracted when they walk in on me.

    Time alone - overrated. I'm like a camel storing water in that respect. I know I had a year with 14 days all in all spent alone. I've been through times where I was scared to be alone, to face myself, face my thoughts before I learned how to control them. I can easily be in others' company, because I can separate myself into different parts, one alone, one attentive. It's sort of like the way you can read a book and hear every word spoken out loud in your head, although you're reading three times faster than people can talk. There's a discrepancy between realtime and internal time and that time can be used to operate on several levels at once.

    I think most of my post just dealt with what people wouldn't realise about an extrovert
    Last edited by Vortex; 08-31-2007 at 02:44 PM. Reason: typos

  3. #3
    Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    MBTI
    ENTJ
    Posts
    31

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post

    What stimulates you? How much stimulation do you need? What is your internal world like? How much alone time do you need and how often do you need it? What comes along with being an extrovert that most people don't realize?
    These are the sort of questions I'm not good at answering.

  4. #4
    Senior Member Littlelostnf's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    ENFJ
    Posts
    644

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post
    When any extroverts out there can tear themselves away from the party they're currently attending (), please take a moment to explain how you experience extroversion.

    What stimulates you? How much stimulation do you need? What is your internal world like? How much alone time do you need and how often do you need it? What comes along with being an extrovert that most people don't realize?

    Thank you for your participation. You may return to your regularly scheduled extroverted activities.
    There is always a part of me that is alone. I can be in the company of dozens of people and I could be conversing with them or whatever and still I'm truly alone outside of the scene observing.

    I am easily overwhelmed when I'm around to many people. I pick up on so much from people both spoken and unspoken that I often find the need to get away from the stimulation.

    I am perfectly happy with a book at home alone. I find that when I'm with people I feel like I have to entertain them. I like when I'm with my close friends because I know that we can be together and I don't have to chat to them if I don't want to. I have a reputation for being chatty and bouncy but my real friends know that I'm more likely to want to simply sit and read or be on the computer or write.

    My inner life. Sometimes I want to shut it off. I am constantly thinking analyzing, wondering. I sometimes wish I could be like people think most extroverts are.

    What people might not know....extroversion can be tiring. Very often people rely on me to "get the party started" and I've come to feel almost an obligation to do so (even when it's not my party). Sometimes I'd like to let someone else do that.

    Return to my extroverted activities....ha! I've been alone all day. Actually quite nice.
    for my life is slowed up by thought and the need to understand what I am living.

  5. #5
    Senior Member niffer's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    ENfP
    Enneagram
    8w9 sx/sp
    Posts
    1,219

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Vortex View Post
    I can easily be in others' company, because I can separate myself into different parts, one alone, one attentive. It's sort of like the way you can read a book and hear every word spoken out loud in your head, although you're reading three times faster than people can talk. There's a discrepancy between realtime and internal time and that time can be used to operate on several levels at once.
    This is a good description.

    As for myself, everything I do of importance has to do with other people. I have no problem whatsoever being the center of attention of many people, and I never experience the "overstimulation" llnf mentioned. I allow myself to be completely immersed in whatever conversation or activity the group is doing and let the Ne run it's course so that I can "go with the flow". The company energizes me. The more positive interaction occurs, the more engaged, hyper, and outgoing I become. Before I am engaged in a conversation/activity with someone, I kind of stay dormant and remain inside my mind, keeping mild awareness on the rest of the world. However, the slightest positive acknowledgement of my existence or sign of willingness to reciprocate socially that I notice on the part of others sets me off immediately, and the fog of dullness that gathered outside of me since the last interaction lifts and I become recharged again. When I'm forced to cut off the interaction(s), I feel a sinking feeling of dismay, because in my mind "the more the merrier" holds true, and even if I am interacting with multiple people, I feel progressively more and more dismay with each person that leaves (which might be a taste of Fi seeping in).
    sparkly sparkly rainbow excretions

    Quote Originally Posted by ThatGirl View Post
    holy shit am I a feeler?
    if you like my avatar, it's because i took it myself! : D

  6. #6

    Default

    Cool Thread!

    I'm not an extravert, so I can't contribute.

    Just wanted to put in a word of encouragement.

    Accept the past. Live for the present. Look forward to the future.
    Robot Fusion
    "As our island of knowledge grows, so does the shore of our ignorance." John Wheeler
    "[A] scientist looking at nonscientific problems is just as dumb as the next guy." Richard Feynman
    "[P]etabytes of [] data is not the same thing as understanding emergent mechanisms and structures." Jim Crutchfield

  7. #7
    Senior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2007
    MBTI
    ENTJ
    Posts
    880

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by proteanmix View Post
    When any extroverts out there can tear themselves away from the party they're currently attending (), please take a moment to explain how you experience extroversion.
    Just recovering from the one last night

    What stimulates you? How much stimulation do you need?
    I need alot of stimulation. I can get quickly bored if I have nothing to do. I always need to be doing something... Talking, working, surfing the internet, reading, etc. I like to have music going in the background while I work for the more simple tasks that I have to do or else I don't have enough stimulation and get bored.

    What is your internal world like? How much alone time do you need and how often do you need it?
    My mind is constantly working. It never stops. I'm always thinking about something. And I crave external stimulation to make me able to think about new things.

    My internal world is filled with alternate possibilities, what ifs, intuitions about the future, intuitions about what lies beneath the appearance of things, what the pattern of repeated phenomena is... This alone time is crucial as it helps me to envision and plan for the future. Without it I would be like a driver without a map, just going forward without knowing where he's going. I need to spend time to analyze and intuit on what happens and what will probably happen in the future as to choose the best course of action. During this time, it's as if I "program" myself with principles that I will follow to guide my actions. However, when I spend much time alone my thinking gets very intuitive and unclear and I need to extravert in one way or another to organize my thoughts (such as by talking or writing). I think much better with a piece of paper where I can make drawings, notes and establish links between things than in my head.

    My alone time basically depends on how things are going. When everything is going fine, I do not need much alone time. When the shit hits the fan, I need to take a big step back and reanalyze the situation as to choose another course of action. Sometimes I am so bent on finding a solution to a problem that I will obsessively analyze and reanalyze it until I figure out what the best thing to do is (and, although a long process, this has enabled me to generate the best ideas and solutions to things).

    What comes along with being an extrovert that most people don't realize?
    That essentially you take more risks in relationships with an introvert because you're the one initiating, you're the one self-revealing, etc. Talking exposes you to many more dangers than keeping silent.

  8. #8

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Vortex View Post
    Haha, exactly the sort of question I felt like digging into

    I'm very much stimulated by the company of others (if I happen to be alone, my "company" will often be online or a book). It can be weeks between occurences of "real" alone time. I love discussing things with people, love having a conversation spiralling into beautiful heights, building intricate webs and castles with ideas, fueled by passion about the subject at hand.

    However, I don't think I need stimulation to function. I'm perfectly capable of being alone. Friends will sometimes be annoyed with me not calling or generally disappearing off the face of the earth, but I just feel that time is different to me than it might be to them. In the same vein, I'd be hard pressed to tell you what happened last week, what year I met somebody or how long it's been since I last met a person.

    My internal world. Well, it's a place I like to keep in good shape, since I spend a lot of my time there. I good chunk is designated to cataloguing and recognising patterns and behaviours in the people and world around me. Data collecting, you might say (with added analytic properties constantly in action). A part of me is always watching and commenting on my actions, as if I were reading a book, such as: "she picked up the apple, taking a bite, while staring blankly into space, thinking about what she'd be writing. A few seconds later, her fingers were eagerly stroking the keyboard while she contemplated how ridiculous an exercise it was to write this sort of thing down".
    Obviously, at the same time there'll be a control center deciding on the next action, censoring and allowing and most importantly filtering everything that is to be shown to the outside world.
    Small parts will be occupied with problem solving or understanding something new, much in the same way I do when I dream. That's what it feels like, anyway.
    A huge part will be distracted, day dreaming, thinking about all sorts of scenarios, writing stories in my head and letting me feel alive. That's the important part, but also the part that makes people find me a bit distracted when they walk in on me.

    Time alone - overrated. I'm like a camel storing water in that respect. I know I had a year with 14 days all in all spent alone. I've been through times where I was scared to be alone, to face myself, face my thoughts before I learned how to control them. I can easily be in others' company, because I can separate myself into different parts, one alone, one attentive. It's sort of like the way you can read a book and hear every word spoken out loud in your head, although you're reading three times faster than people can talk. There's a discrepancy between realtime and internal time and that time can be used to operate on several levels at once.

    I think most of my post just dealt with what people wouldn't realise about an extrovert

    That sounds like me, but I always kinda thought I was an introvert. I dunno, this whole I/E thing confuses me.

  9. #9
    Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    MBTI
    ENTJ
    Posts
    31

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Maverick View Post
    ...I crave external stimulation...
    I think this nails it. What separates the two introverts in my family from the three extroverts is that the introverts can and like to spend long periods of time alone. They don't get bored.

  10. #10
    Senior Member Sahara's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    MBTI
    INFP
    Posts
    927

    Default

    ...I crave external stimulation...
    But that's the thing, don't even us Introverts crave external stimulation? I mean just look at us all congregating on the net looking to socialise and get that external stimulation.
    "No one can be free of the chains that surround them"

Similar Threads

  1. inp's and isp's how do you experience Ne Si and Se Ni could there be confusion?
    By INFtha14 in forum Myers-Briggs and Jungian Cognitive Functions
    Replies: 23
    Last Post: 05-27-2009, 12:46 PM
  2. Introverts: How Do You Experience Introversion?
    By FFF in forum General Psychology
    Replies: 78
    Last Post: 04-18-2009, 01:05 AM
  3. Replies: 17
    Last Post: 08-28-2008, 05:10 PM
  4. How do you experience beauty?
    By Blackmail! in forum Arts & Entertainment
    Replies: 3
    Last Post: 06-21-2008, 12:12 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO