I think I need an injection of rainbows and kittens now.
More on topic, I think there are a lot of things about me I find unacceptable. I think my sense of humor has been a sticking point lately. So the fear is that not being proficient at certain things makes me a lesser person, undeserving of someone else's love and affection.
Self-image. I guess there's a dual self-image going on, whenever you find something about yourself to be unacceptable. There's the ideal, which you are not but strive to be, and then there's the real, which you strive to stamp out. You replace the real response with your attempt at the ideal, I guess?
I relate to a lot of Kelric's post, and I think Jennifer has a point.