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    Default What is the hardest decision you've ever had to make?

    Title says it all.

    What factors went into your choice?
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    Had a k9 that had to be put down. To this day that decision tops any pertaining to keeping any relationship alive.
    everyone uses every function about evenly. take NE for example. if there are those who don't use it much, then why are there such massive amounts of people constantly flowing through Wallmart with 20 items or less?

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    The hardest decision in my life was to accept the fact that I am what I am and it is impossible for me to change that.

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    For me it's to break up or not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lasting_Pain View Post
    The hardest decision in my life was to accept the fact that I am what I am and it is impossible for me to change that.
    That was basically my conundrum as well... and it led me to make some very intense, very large, very complicated choices in my life that I am still dealing with today... but I don't regret what I chose at all, I just wish it could have been easier for everyone involved.

    Factors:
    1. Experience and information (i.e., experiences of others).
    2. Faith.
    3. Advice from people I trusted.
    4. Promises and commitments.
    5. Personal insight.
    6. Intellect/Rationality.
    7. Trying various other solutions and seeing how they worked.


    Some of these things conflicted. it took me a long time to weigh it all, then commit to a different course of action.
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    I think it was when I was 18.
    I was extremely depressed and had a really crappy job and was graduating highschool. I hated my friends and the house my mom and I lived in was dumpy. Not much to do in the town. I was going to stay but made a snap decision to move 4 hours south and get new friends, dump my boyfriend and get a new job.

    Factors being that I had gone on a couple of vacations, one to Florida. It got me away from my hometown and my depression lifted. I figured I would just get away from my crappy situation permanently.

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    When I was 13 and I had to choose whether to report my parents or not and whether to pursue a criminal case against them. It was one of the most heatbreaking and difficult decisions I've ever had to make.

    The second time was finally leaving my ex husband, again something I wrestled with for a long time.

    The main factor that drove me in both decisions were my safety, in both cases the threat to me had become too great to allow any longer, if I hadn't felt my life was in danger I'm not sure I could have forced such a binding decision upon myself.
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    Leaving my husband.

    Factors:

    1) My psychological state.
    2) The perceived opportunity and desire to travel the world and accumulate diverse life experiences.
    3) My understanding of my husband as being arrogant, insensitive and boring and not sharing the same goals as I.
    4) The allure of an affectionate, exciting, passionate, carefree man.

    (P.S. Please don't rip me on this...the decision is not something I'm proud of, and I suffer from it daily.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by beyondaurora View Post
    Leaving my husband.

    Factors:

    1) My psychological state.
    2) The perceived opportunity and desire to travel the world and accumulate diverse life experiences.
    3) My understanding of my husband as being arrogant, insensitive and boring and not sharing the same goals as I.
    4) The allure of an affectionate, exciting, passionate, carefree man.

    (P.S. Please don't rip me on this...the decision is not something I'm proud of, and I suffer from it daily.)
    Can i rip on your husband on this? Reads like his arrogants ignored himself.
    everyone uses every function about evenly. take NE for example. if there are those who don't use it much, then why are there such massive amounts of people constantly flowing through Wallmart with 20 items or less?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lasting_Pain View Post
    The hardest decision in my life was to accept the fact that I am what I am and it is impossible for me to change that.
    To be someone is only possible if there is something or someone to measure yourself with. And Measuring is totally overrated, if you have got the eagles eye and can guess the length to two decimal places by just one look
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