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  1. #21
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    Quote Originally Posted by Viv View Post
    Hardest decision I ever had to make was to let a few people I love go.

    Quote Originally Posted by nebbykoo View Post
    Me too. You just hope that someday they will begin to see clearly.
    Ditto.


    To the OP: Deciding to go it alone at 15, or living under my asshole step-father for a few more years.

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    NFs are fascinating entities.

    Such glittering vulnerability alongside complex psychological depth. Truly envious of your range, I am.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Biaxident View Post
    Ditto.


    To the OP: Deciding to go it alone at 15, or living under my asshole step-father for a few more years.
    And then deciding I was too proud/stubborn to accept help.

    I was a dumbass.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nebbykoo View Post
    Me too. You just hope that someday they will begin to see clearly. Still, I can't fully give up on anyone.
    It's difficult. I agonize over these sorts of decisions, and even after I've made them, I feel very wounded and ill at ease for quite a while afterward. I'm about growing branches not cutting them off. If someone else's problems are diseasing the tree, they have to go.
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    Leaving my husband.

    It would have been easier if he'd been a jerk, but he isn't.


    I... suppose. Yeah!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rajah View Post
    It would have been easier if he'd been a jerk, but he isn't.
    It's always easier if the other person gives you an excuse. Sigh. It's the nice/good ones who complicate things.

    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPiranha View Post
    It's difficult. I agonize over these sorts of decisions, and even after I've made them, I feel very wounded and ill at ease for quite a while afterward. I'm about growing branches not cutting them off. If someone else's problems are diseasing the tree, they have to go.
    Word.
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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
    To be someone is only possible if there is something or someone to measure yourself with. And Measuring is totally overrated, if you have got the eagles eye and can guess the length to two decimal places by just one look
    Looking back it was foolish about me doubting myself. But I was young, my hormones and emotions got the best of me so I decided to run with the pack. Can you imagine an INTP running with a pack? It is a bad site.

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    The hardest thing was breaking up with my girlfriend.

    I knew that if she felt she was breaking up with me, she would walk away feeling whole and on her own two feet - taking control of her own life.

    But if she felt dumped by me, she would feel out of control as though the decision had been taken out of her hands.

    So the problem was how to actually take the decision out of her hands but for her to break up with me - for her to dump me.

    And she did. She told me, "I never want to see you again". And she didn't.

    And she went on to stand on her own two feet in LA and help others stand on their own two feet by founding her own self-help organisation.

    I often wonder if I made the right decision as I struggle to stand on my own two feet.

    We could have continued to support each other - and indeed it was sweet support - but there is nothing quite like taking responsibility for oneself - even if one is to fail.
    Last edited by Bellflower; 03-30-2009 at 08:01 PM. Reason: Moved some distracting personal posts to a more suitable location.

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    Nothing really comes to mind. I suppose the most difficult ones were deciding whether or not to be with someone anymore. I roll with things that only affect myself pretty easily, but those kinds of decisions are a bit more difficult to make. Looking back, most of the most "difficult" decisions I've made seem pretty trivial to me now. I've been fortunate, though, to have never had to make any extremely difficult decisions, like deciding to take someone off of life support, or reporting the serious crime of a friend.
    "When a resolute young fellow steps up the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find that it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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    A two-way tie. Sort of.

    I was wondering the hell my career path was going be after I graduated with my bachelors. This would involve possibly switching fields and/or moving clear across the country. I ended up sticking around this city but moving to a different field for my next degree, using my accumulated experience from the previous to give me a niche in the market.

    Then, I was wondering the hell my career path was going be after I graduated with my masters. This would involve possibly switching fields and/or moving clear across the country. I ended up sticking around this city but moving to a different field for my next degree, using my accumulated experience from the previous to give me a niche in the market.

    Thankfully, I know exactly where I'm headed after the Ph.D.

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