Oddly enough the hallmark of emotional intelligence is restraint.
And so it is not so surprising to find those without emotional intelligence are ruled by their emotions.
But it always comes as surprise to me.
Their immediate emotion is expressed quite naturally. But they do not have the intelligence to know what emotion is appropriated and what is inappropriate.
The definition of a gentleman is someone who is never unintentionally rude.
And this is also the definition of someone with emotional intelligence.
But birds of a feather flock together. And naturally they hate a bird of a different feather.
And in the same way the emotionally unintelligent flock together, giving each other the impression they are normal.
And God help any emotionally intelligent gentleman, who wanders in by accident.
He will be accused, God help us, of not being normal.
And then every attempt will be made to socially exclude him - to ostracise him, or ban him.
Incivility, marginalisation and banishment are not above the emotionally unintelligent.
And they are ruthless, relentless and unrepentant.
Everything but restrained.