I believe that is true for me. I know it's one of the "stuck" areas between my ISTJ husband and I. When I need validation he reads it as a request for help and sometimes overdoes trying to "fix" it for me.
I have to stop him from getting into my space and explain that all I need is for my feelings to be heard in order to get in gear.
And he resists validating my uncomfortable feelings because it makes him feel uncomfortable for me. He wants to jump right into repairing when it's not his responsibility to do so.
I don't know if that ever ends. Apparently not. But a reminder is usually good enough to help him back off from "fixing." Take a rest, Dude. The dilemma of the "good guy."
Edit: To be fair I need to acknowledge my part in this. When I was younger it was handy to take advantage of his generosity in this area. And I had to learn that I don't always have to have someone else around to validate me. I needed to learn that my own self-validation would sometimes need to be enough.