Well, I find his add amusing considering the fact that I have friends and did not have to become a complete jerk like him to do it. I don't think that he is aware that the reason that I am introvert is because I like to AVOID people like that.
I mean, who wants to be around a person who is so wrapped into themselves that they forget that you are there?
I've been hearing that almost my entire life. "You need to be more assertive", "you need to be more outgoing", "you need to practice being like so and so", etc. Sometimes I tried, sometimes it made me feel badly about myself. I'm pretty okay with it now and have made decisions with the assumption that I am who I actually am. The positive side is that I don't care that much what people think especially now.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who's run out of ideas. H.G. WELLS
The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool. FEYNMAN If this is monkey pee, you're on your own.SCULLY
Extroversion does offer a definite social advantage.
In fact, I'd go so far as to say that extroverts probably average more success in most careers than introverts, simply because they're more willing to interact with others to find opportunities for success.
I believe ENFJ to be the most socially advantageous type--I try to craft an ENFJ image in public/at work or around people I don't know and have no reason to show my real personality to.
If you could be anything you want, I bet you'd be disappointed--am I right?
Just when you thought reading might make you less of a tool...
you get points simply for saying the word tool. What a perfect description of him though.
Originally Posted by Anja
Half my life I heard negative comments about introversion and it's truly BS. Introversion is simply the way that I deal with personal energy.
But society lables it "bad."
Yes. I've always been led to believe I would fail at life forever if I am to stay the way I am. I personally see it as alot of less stress and a bit of a reasurrance that I'm stable within myself and posess my own means of doing things.
Originally Posted by Costrin
I'm a proud introvert. I have no desire to change, and you can't make me!
Originally Posted by OneWithSoul
Of course we're losers- and I'm DAMN proud of being one!
Originally Posted by Athenian200
A little hard to swallow, but... yes, that's the kind of person I've always tried not to be, so it only makes sense. But... what if you don't even know how to jump in in the first place, because you can't even see how to get to the pool? If I knew how to jump in, I'd probably be able to figure it out from there, somehow...
I'm starting much, much further back than most people seem to think, here. Unfortunately I always manage to come across as far more well-adjusted than I actually am.
This is the point where you sit there and look at yourself and go "My god this is pathetic. Do I dislike the way I am? (y/n) Do I want to change? "(y/n)
If you answered yes to those questions (lol, sales pitch), sometimes you simply have to tell yourself that you've fallen behind. When I get all whiny and mopey, I talk to A) Myself because I'm an ass and get over it quickly, or B) my other INTJ friend who is an ass and I get over it quickly. I realized at some point that there's people SO MUCH worse off than me, in life's physical and societal aspects and within themselvs, that my issues need to be dealt with and I have to move on. I have a similar problem- I've fallen back into a but of a slump, especially with art. I need a scholarship to get into school, and art was and still is my way out. And yet I'm one of the least productive kids in the class. I can blame it on "Oh, I've had alot of new responsibilities at home like making dinner and cleaning it up and supervising my younger siblings and oh there's so much pain in my life blah blah failed family that b roke apart oh poor me", or "yeah well I'm just so tired and I can't focus at home because of the yelling and I'm not allowed to do this and this and I have this responsibility others don't, etc. etc.", when in all reality its my fault. I have to make time if it means that much to me. Maybe walk a bit faster to get home in less time, clean up early, etc. Either way at the end of the day it comes down to the fact that I live a pampered life in comparison to millions everywhere else. I have a home, I have a bed to call my own. Sure I'm definitely not the average American with a happy rich family, but I have so much compared to the rest of the world.
Some see this strategy as self-deprivation or bad for my self-esteem, when in all reality its what gets me to realize how lucky I am. Maybe this can work for you in a sense. Now this post is like a million miles long because I felt the need to quote every other person on here and went hideously off topic, but still. Not to be a hard-ass or underestimate your mental prowess (because honestly I'd hate if someone did that to me. This is more of a compliment, if anything) but, well, get over yourself. You obviously have the capacity and ability to, something it takes years for some and never for most. If you'd like not to lay there all day then go do something. I realize oftentimes mental blocks are much more difficult than real-life ones, but if you honestly want to be the person you envision, you need to get over yourself first.
And now I sound like the biggest asshole on earth, haha. Makin' friends, makin' friends...
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