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View Poll Results: Which neurotic coping style(s) do you tend towards?

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  • Compliant/compliant

    1 1.18%
  • Aggressive/aggressive

    1 1.18%
  • Withdrawn/withdrawn

    6 7.06%
  • Compliant/aggressive

    9 10.59%
  • Compliant/withdrawn

    17 20.00%
  • Aggressive/compliant

    3 3.53%
  • Aggressive/withdrawn

    10 11.76%
  • Withdrawn/compliant

    12 14.12%
  • Withdrawn/aggressive

    26 30.59%
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  1. #31
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    withdrawn/agressive...

    I naturally withdraw from stressful situations- I'm the queen of ignoring things and pushing them to the side. I prefer to deal with things on my own in most cases. I guess anything less would make me feel "needy," like I must NEED other people instead of being enough of a person to do everything on my own.

    Having been raised with an agressive sibling taught me to fight back in some cases instead of just escaping though, so I've learned to be more agressive thanks to that. You need to develop some agressive traits if surrounded by agressive people, or you start to think that you've ceased to exist...
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    This is interesting, when I first started reading about this I assumed aggression would at least be a backup, but I don't do any of those. So I'm withdraw(8)/withdraw(10) and in the rare case that there was no way to withdraw then compliance(1). Those three options were the only ones I could force myself to choose.

    Quote Originally Posted by Economica View Post
    Hmm, the Withdrawn coping strategy is supposed to be the rarest, but that vote is at 69% of 32 votes so far.

    Think some Compliants and Aggressives are fooling themselves or is this to be expected from the respondents to such a poll on such an internet forum?
    Maybe it's a reflection of how strongly introverted the majority of this board is? Just a theory.

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    Probably withdrawn/aggressive?

    I dunno...
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    Quote Originally Posted by pippi View Post
    Maybe it's a reflection of how strongly introverted the majority of this board is? Just a theory.
    Introverts are probably more likely than extroverts to be withdrawn, but based on my own observation I don't think all or even most introverts necessarily prefer the withdrawn coping style. However, I'm willing to believe that most individuals who self-select onto an internet forum like this one do so, regardless of introversion. (Barring voting self-selection and/or people kidding themselves, the poll is kind of forcing me to. )

    And on that note: All the other pure Aggressives are out pursuing power and recognition in the real world, aren't they?

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    Oh yeah! I figured out why I don't get it! There's no 'people are distracting! Get em away get em away!' option.
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    I had a really hard time deciding the order there. Withdrawn/Compliant could be just as plausible as Compliant/Withdraw, really.

    I tried to avoid letting my various other personality classifications alter my decision.
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    I think I have elements of both compliant and aggressive in me -- I definitey relate to this:

    The need for affection and approval; pleasing others and being liked by them.
    The need for a partner; one whom they can love and who will solve all problems.

    and also this:

    The need for social recognition; prestige and limelight.
    The need for personal admiration; for both inner and outer qualities -- to be valued.
    The need for personal achievement
    I crave affection, and I don't really wish to stomp on others to get success for myself. However, I'm not at all self-effacing. I crave being admired by the very people I want affection from, and I admit I tend to be self-absorbed. So I voted "compliant/aggressive".

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    Does compliance actually work? I swear it doesn't...

    Anyway I picked Aggressive/withdrawn

    Aggression works extremely well with detachment making a good backup

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    Compliant/withdrawn and if people still don't get a clue, aggressive.
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    Aggressive/Withdrawn

    When I am stressed, I initially feel a sense of superiority and the urge to prove people wrong and become successful. If the stress keeps amounting though, I usually need to pull away. This is usually due to self-doubt.

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