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  • I change my actions.

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  • I change my thinking.

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    Default When your actions and thinking don't mesh

    When it becomes apparent that your thinking and your actions don't mesh, which do you change? No cop-out "it depends" option. This is forced choice, baby!
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    If they didn't mesh then wouldn't there be a reason for that? And if there was a reason for that then why would something needed to be changed?
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    I tend to just think "That is screwed. Up!" and change neither. I am reasonably comfortable with a conflicted state of being. I can accept that I'm conflicted or I can go nuts trying to become consistent. It's less work to just accept it.
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    Actions I think tend to change more, since me thoughts are often the more "perfect" version of how I do something. If the action doesn't change, it's usually a well ingrained habit that is hard to break, and the reason to break it is quite clear in my head.

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    I voted "I change my actions," because most of the time that's true; however, I think that sometimes it does depend on the situation. Sometimes it would be better to change actions, other times it would be better to change thinking.

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    well seeing as how I hate conflict and confrontation I would probably change them both... seriously I would. But given that I had conflict my actions and my thinking always tend to match... seriously to the outward world I look like I act as I think...
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    Was I the only one who voted that I would change my thinking? I mean, I just assume that if my actions indicated one thing about me, and my thoughts another, then obviously my thoughts are flawed and need to be corrected. Doesn't that make sense?

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    I voted to change my thinking as well, athenian. I believe that actions come from thoughts, and even though the two may conflict, there's probably some underlying cause still in the brain that influences one's actions. So I keep changing my thoughts. Of course, changing thought requires action.... but the action is to change thoughts, by whatever means necessary .

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    Earlier in life, I was predominately "change my actions."

    At this point, I am old enough to have experienced many things that seemingly are beyond my ability to change. So, yes, I guess you are right -- I've had to change my thinking instead, since I decided my ideas were not an accurate depiction of reality.

    But I can't make any sort of blanket vote on the matter. Normally it seems better to control your actions if you can, rather than having to rip your worldview reality out by the roots and build another.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mycroft View Post
    When it becomes apparent that your thinking and your actions don't mesh, which do you change? No cop-out "it depends" option. This is forced choice, baby!
    Damn you J for trying to force a decision on me :steam: lol

    It really would be "It depends", I can't make a decision about what needs to be changed without knowing what it is that isn;t working.

    If forced.......well......errrr.......I.......errr... ....really can't do it.
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