For me, nothing - nothing - makes me feel better about something bad, more than PUTTING IT RIGHT. Crying, wallowing - waste of time I could've spent in action. All I care about is doing something about the situation, that overrides any sense of how this thing affected me - almost the very minute I realize how something's negatively affected me, I'm immediately seeing the bigger picture and realizing how it would also be affecting others, that it's been happening for time and nobody's done anything - that makes me angry and that makes me take action because I can't suffer the situation to exist any longer. I can see the chain of events and circumstances that have led to the situation, both for me and for society as a whole, and I immediately set about finding ways to smash that chain to pieces and put something better in its place. The anger and the resultant action is my response and release. It's there, but it doesn't control me; I use it. Laborare est orare - and in my case, flere (heh, pretentious, moi? )
Things I can't put right, like someone being dead - well, I just accept that *shrug* - who's going to tell me that I shouldn't, and instead cry and rail against reality?