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    compassionately truthful
    "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. "

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    "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."

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    If I remember correctly the question was.


    What are you more likely to say to other person if those two are opposite of each other in some situation?
    Of course that almost everyone would choose both but that is not the point of the question.

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    I'm most likely to remain silent.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    I'm most likely to remain silent.
    I know what you mean.

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    I mean, people usually already know the truth. Most people aren't that thick. So I'd guess compassion is better, because not everyone can give themselves that.

    I'm not good at compassion, though. So it's probably just best to keep my mouth shut.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    I mean, people usually already know the truth. Most people aren't that thick. So I'd guess compassion is better, because not everyone can give themselves that.

    I'm not good at compassion, though. So it's probably just best to keep my mouth shut.
    Not in my experience.

    Keeping your mouth shut is a way of being compassionate, isn't that the point of the thread?
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    It depends on how much I trust them.

    If I trust a person to take the truth without shooting the messenger, then I prefer to tell it to them (because they'll know me, and know why I'm doing it). If I don't trust them, I prefer to just be compassionate and try to avoid lying as much as possible while still making it sound good.

    This may change if a person expressly states (and/or behaves consistently with) a preference for one or the other, though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bluemonday View Post
    Not in my experience.

    Keeping your mouth shut is a way of being compassionate, isn't that the point of the thread?
    Keeping one's mouth shut is indecision and would probably cause more harm than either truth or compassion.

    People usually know the truth. Usually it's buried. Either that, or on such a subject, the perspectives are so crossed that there is no truth. And even so, expression of the truth would probably butcher it so hard that it'd be useless anyway.

    Compassion may not be best, but at least it's not futile.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haphazard View Post
    Keeping one's mouth shut is indecision and would probably cause more harm than either truth or compassion.

    People usually know the truth. Usually it's buried. Either that, or on such a subject, the perspectives are so crossed that there is no truth. And even so, expression of the truth would probably butcher it so hard that it'd be useless anyway.

    Compassion may not be best, but at least it's not futile.
    No. You make a decision to keep your mouth shut. That decision may be motivated by compassion, or by cowardice - either way, it's still a decision.

    How are you defining compassion?

    If the truth is buried then people don't know it. Most people are ignorant, especially about themselves. Most people don't want to know the truth. Most people refuse to hear the truth even when it is delivered with the best of intentions.

    Most efforts at communication are futile.

    /pessimism.
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    Compassion is a blunt instrument. The lovely thing about it is that it usually gives expected results -- the worst is that you don't know how or why.

    Truth is a precision tool. Most of the times, it does nothing. It's impossible to define and people refuse to hear it. So, for all intents and purposes, it doesn't even exist.

    Now, when it comes to giving one's honest opinion, that's an entirely different matter.
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