A continuation of our exploration on the idea of Faking it until you make it.
Most people agreed that we should try to overcome our shyness and self consciousness by acting out confidence until "the act" becomes second nature to us... that is we have become what we initially tried to act out. It's really not so much "faking" as learning new skill sets via practice. What happens if I take the question one step further?
Should we fake confidence in order to attract potential mates?
It's common knowledge that women typically prefer men with self confidence and charisma. This so called "alpha male" phenomenon.
This idea is explored in some interesting readings... such as Neil Strauss's "The game: penetrating the secret society of pickup artists". Clearly not all men are naturally charismatic... why not fake it? You'll eventually make it...
Yet most people react strongly against this, even though they've fully agreed with what I said in the first case. Why? What's the difference between the two?