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    Quote Originally Posted by 011235813 View Post
    Armando Molina on 7s in love, from Our Ways.
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    Any chance you can post the section on 3's and 8's? Didn't see them if they were out already. Thanks

    EDIT: What happened to OP? Can't "mention" him/her.

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    My last relationship was with a 7. Most of it was completely amazing but then one day something went wrong and our close, loving, intimate relationship ended up disintegrating in a matter of weeks. I have never had that happen to me before. It was traumatic and awful.

    The worst thing is this: I know that he will get over it faster than I do because he can actually weep for what he's lost and move on whereas I will nurture the resentment and pain in my heart for years.

    Anyway, a lot of this description is true of him. I mean, it is horrible and I am bitter but it is still true in spite of that.

    I do like 7s though. I often find them incredibly attractive. But given my experience, they're terrible for my mental health.

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    Hmm.

    I think I am a 7 and I am in love.

    I think about my Amor all the time, night and day. I vacillate between feeling disbelief that someone could love me like my Amor does, and feeling blissfully happy in knowing that my Amor does love me more than anyone else has. I want to know my Amor, and be known by my Amor. I am not concerned about rules of society, which has always made me question my infj status, but I think this aspect of my personality is a manifestation of being a 7. Because I am sx, it means my Amor and I will make our own rules.

    Being a 7 and in love means I dream and I dream big. Ideas come to me unbidden and surge in like surf at high tide. Once my mind gets ahold of these, it surfs out onto those waves like a playful otter. I build a life for us that could happen, but just has not yet happened because of life circumstances. Then as I come back down to reality, I must reckon with the truth of the here and now, which is not as much fun. Still, I am always moving forward, looking at what could be, seeing the potential in every situation, and every person.

    I know with certainty, and with time, some truths. Such as I am loved and I am wanted to distraction. And I want. And I need. Big. I am demanding. I have high standards. I am a task master. But I am also loyal to a fault. I do not give up easily or often. And, despite, what typical extraverted 7's might be like, I do not move on quickly or easily. In fact, all my life it is I who have been rejected. Not who has been the one rejecting.

    I trust God will send me my Amor, as He said He would. But I also think I might live alone the rest of my life. Either is likely in my head. I trust God more than myself though...

    So yeah.
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    Ooooo look what I found when I was looking for Lady X quotes to try and like....






    I'm not doing anything today so I'm going to consider this far more deeply but after a brief read...



    Quote Originally Posted by Lady_X View Post
    ugh this one is pretty awful too. can't they at least preface this by saying a 7 that's really immature, selfish and doesn't care about you much....

    ^^like
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    Armando Molina on 7s in love, from Our Ways.

    7SE characters live absorbed in their own expectations and enthused by a thousand exciting activities, and they want to do what they like just as much in company as when alone. Their extrinsic multipolar focus and typical fear of concentrating on a single course of action ...
    Okay, I am like all of the above except for my ongoing attempt to curb my expectations. Or not to turn imagined future possibilities into expectations but rather be grateful for whichever comes to pass. Even the shitty stuff because Amor Fati.


    induce them to keep all their options open...
    I take issue with the word all here and to any thought that would lead the reader to think I consider people to be "options" as is suggested in the following sentences here...


    They like to meet many charming persons rather than achieve stability with one who, no matter how marvelous, may end up boring them; they desire to lead exciting adventures in which neither of the two becomes dependent.

    ^^Absofuckinlutely not. It reminds me of Christopher McCandless...a total 7SE...what he kinda gave his life to learn...





    More sensual than sexual or passionate
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    Obviously, this is complete bullshit as well considering it is an essential trait that ENFPs are the sexiest of the entire MBTI...fuckin duh. I'm 100% sexual and sexually attractive to all dudes and chicks even.


    they enter into romantic relationships seeking to share and enjoy what each of the two has of the extraordinary;
    100% True


    but they limit their commitment and avoid binding themselves.
    ^complete and utter bullshit. it may take me longer to commit...but once I do I'm more than constant and devoted.



    They tend to have sundry relations during their lives, always searching for self-sufficient lovers who complement their own interests and enthusiasms ... and who can enjoy [the world] with them without imposing restrictions ... If that is not possible, they prefer a friendship, well-defined to provide contact enough to sustain interest, but not so much of it to produce boredom or become stifling. The manner of relating is exciting and allows them to avoid having to discuss the unpleasant aspects of life.

    Other than the fact I don't really know what sundry relations mean the above seems pretty true although I will tell you that I can be kinda clingy and needy at times unless made to feel ashamed about being clingy and needy at times. I'm independent but not that independent. If I didn't' prefer/like doing things as a couple I wouldn't be in the relationship.


    okay...I'll have to come back for the rest because creating these posts with the quotes and colors is kinda hard for me...

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    Their fear of commitment often clothes itself in irrational fantasies, like feeling locked in a jail or hospital where the lack of freedom is complete;
    I honestly don't feel a fear of commitment causes any more irrational fears in me as say...not being committed even. Not taking care of myself properly...like going too long without eating or getting a little dehydrated because I went too long without drinking water or something... this can cause Ne to jump the tracks most of all.


    but once in love and committed, they are able to work hard to build a common future, which they are sure will be splendid.
    Yes, thank you Arlando finally.


    Meanwhile, they do not want either of the two to miss a single one of the many social, intellectual and aesthetic possibilities the world presents. Engaging in so many activities tends not to leave enough time for cultivating an authentic intimacy. They superficialize romantic relationships into doing things together and talking about interesting subjects; if a problem arises, they pack their agendas so no time exists to talk about it ...
    ^^This is kinda a creepy passage because there's some truth in it but it's way off too. I can be surprisingly antisocial...and do what I can to constantly remind myself of the value of social contact. But I am all about the Intimate and do kinda imagine doing a bunch of awesome things. No fuckin way do I superficialize the romantic relationship though...unless that means I kinda only focus on the good? I do idealize a bit...overlook negative in the Intimate a bit maybe if that means superficialize...but I don't take them or the relationship lightly.


    They need a lover to support their self-esteem ... but they feel a tremendous need for independence ... If a lover attempts to control or manipulate them, they discover it instantly and revel by withdrawing and becoming evasive or by distracting the other's attention, but rarely by confronting ...
    Yes to all of this...yes.


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    Flirty, they enjoy exerting their seductiveness because it confirms they are still sexually attractive.

    I kinda feel like when I actually believe I'm being flirty guys are like wtf? But then when I'm regular myself I do get guys that sometimes think I'm flirting so idfk. I'm also weird because I am very vain but too lazy to do anything about it.


    They allow themselves occasional infidelities without remorse, but try to spread these out so that none becomes a passion that induces them to abandon their lover. Conversely, if bored with a lover, rather than breaking the relationship off cleanly, they prefer gradually becoming so obvious in their infidelity that their lover splits.

    There's no way in hell I could cheat or keep my cheating hidden if I did. I do know ENFPs that will won't break up with their boring partners but rather cheat though. People don't really become boring to me...and even if they did I can make anything interesting...I mean that...I've been put to the test there. But if things were to get unbearably boring or if there was something in the relationship that needed to give... I would spice/fix things up with a fight rather than look elsewhere. This is why they say "couples that fight together..."


    Very playful, they know how to keep the illusion of love alive with manifold activities, intellectual stimulation and refined sex. They can easily replace negative emotions with something more enjoyable; and they have a splendid ability to elevate the tone of a weakened relation by focusing it on more brilliant things, supplying new interests to share, burying old conflicts, and starting over again. Since they like to help, they may devote time and effort to pep up a sad or depressed lover by attempting to infuse him or her with their optimism ...
    Yah...I guess.



    Yet, they cannot deal with ... dependence ... if their lovers become too problematic and efforts to straighten them out do not yield fruit before too long, they weep over the relationship if it was good and go away. In a short time they recover their optimism ... it does not take them very long to find another love.

    I guess it would depend on what the definition of dependence is here. I don't see some dependence as a negative at all and is Molina piasano? Because idk. But I wouldn't be thrilled if my partner could easily take me or leave me? I'd like to think there was something great I had to offer that my partner "depended on" to make his life better/easier. I also don't think I recover quickly at all after the loss of a relationship fuck no.


    Okay...you can come to do me damage now sexy bitches I'm done.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starry View Post
    I kinda feel like when I actually believe I'm being flirty guys are like wtf? But then when I'm regular myself I do get guys that sometimes think I'm flirting so idfk. I'm also weird because I am very vain but too lazy to do anything about it.





    There's no way in hell I could cheat or keep my cheating hidden if I did. I do know ENFPs that will won't break up with their boring partners but rather cheat though. People don't really become boring to me...and even if they did I can make anything interesting...I mean that...I've been put to the test there. But if things were to get unbearably boring or if there was something in the relationship that needed to give... I would spice/fix things up with a fight rather than look elsewhere. This is why they say "couples that fight together..."




    Yah...I guess.






    I guess it would depend on what the definition of dependence is here. I don't see some dependence as a negative at all and is Molina piasano? Because idk. But I wouldn't be thrilled if my partner could easily take me or leave me? I'd like to think there was something great I had to offer that my partner "depended on" to make his life better/easier. I also don't think I recover quickly at all after the loss of a relationship fuck no.


    Okay...you can come to do me damage now sexy bitches I'm done.
    If I'm an ENFP 7, why am I a virgin at 21?

    Also, why do female superiors get on to me for flirting woth female customers when I am not flirting?
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Wailing Specter View Post
    If I'm an ENFP 7, why am I a virgin at 21?

    Also, why do female superiors get on to me for flirting woth female customers when I am not flirting?


    It's because you are very, very slutty.




    haha. No, it's because you are an ENFP 7.

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    My mother is e7 and she is almost always looks as she is in love.

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