[Type 7] 7s and escaping into a delusional future

[badger055]

7s always need to escape into some promising future. So sometimes I settle for what I can get and create this fantasy in my mind of how this thing in the future is going to be perfect (ex. a life goal, moving, big purchase). But when I actually get to experience the thing more often than not it sucks. It completely destroys the delusion and I'm left wondering what I was thinking. I want to make sure that my future plans are actually what I'm looking for. How would I make sure of this?

 

[five sounds]

7s always need to escape into some promising future. So sometimes I settle for what I can get and create this fantasy in my mind of how this thing in the future is going to be perfect (ex. a life goal, moving, big purchase). But when I actually get to experience the thing more often than not it sucks. It completely destroys the delusion and I'm left wondering what I was thinking. I want to make sure that my future plans are actually what I'm looking for. How would I make sure of this?

i think awareness that *nothing* is ever going to be perfect is a really important thing. i look for improvements. it helps me to identify whatever i'm unhappy with and then focus on whether or not that thing has improved in my new situation.

i will always be looking forward to something bigger and better in some capacity, because that's just the way i am. but keeping it realistic is something that helps me be satisfied with all situations. just finding the positives where you're at, and weighing the negatives out, changing them if you need to.

and if in a moment, i'm really unsatisfied with where i'm at, and i need a *now* escape, that's where fantasizing can come in. can be whatever you want, as long as you know it's just a fantasy.

 

[FDG]

First try to be as pessimistic as possible, then slowly build your way up to a fairly realistic mid-way .