Nope. Not when it is part of your 'individuality' to be likeable, kind and have good relationships with others.
4ing can get unpredictable and counterintuitive. Even before I knew about Enneagram, I decided that it was cliche to be unrelatable and took that on as an obsession. Knowing enneagram, it feels even more true, but also unavoidable in ways.
Thank you. I've been feeling really gross/unloveable after reading a lot of stuff on INFPs and the Type 4 personality. Some commenters on another forum (not THIS one - y'all are awesome) basically flat out attack 4 Types with "open letters" detailing how all 4 qualities make you annoying, get you uninvited to social functions, difficult to work with, etc.
It's really nice to hear that 4s aren't terrible. I know I've got work to do channeling my emotions in more productive ways. It's hard to be criticized for something you struggle with/can't control - such as feeling things deeply and picking up on other's emotions (positive and negative).
Anywho, lovely to be a part of this forum and delightful to know that 4 types do have some strengths to go along with those weaknesses!
Ask yourself how you feel about them. These people are rarely aware of just how unpopular they are themselves, and tend to just take out their own frustration on others. I'd say they don't make the cut wrt what feedback to take on board.
Yes, us fours can be dramatic, and a lot to handle, especially as we're still figuring out selves out - but every type out there has its issues, no worse or not better than any other. And we have our gifts - just like they do.