My life could be divided into stages.
Stage 1 (Age 1-20): Surviving an alcoholic family
Stage 2 (Age 21-39): Marriage / Raising family
Stage 3 (Age 40): Single life / Becoming more authentic socially
Stage 1 demanded a particular mindset to survive. I had to rely on not tapping into my Four wing at all, it was all pretty much Five -- observe, protect self, detach the emotions, deny any human needs, maintain logical legitimacy, survive. Meanwhile, I had an artistic side that I viewed more as "projects" where I could give full reign to emotional exploration and creation, and I oddly would feel most alive during those times but could not let it interfere with the reality of my daily survival.
Stage 2 was an integration period, because the strategies I relied on growing up no longer worked in a marriage. I had to embrace emotions, for one, and actually process them rather than simply ignoring or stuffing them. (The early part of this period had its share of emotional explosions.) I also wasn't happy and had to acknowledge that there were needs within me not being met and find a way to meet them, legitimately. Also, art and identity and meaning became less separate from me and began filtering over into my daily world as I sought for a way to be both honest about the world while being true to myself. In the tail end of Stage 3, I lost all motivation for art because all that energy was going into recreating myself while under the protective guidance of my objective rationality -- i.e., I could be free to explore it because I still kept a good sense of the world around me and its strictures. So logic was guiding me, but within it I was exploring right up to the boundaries.
Stage 3 has been a period of integration. I've begun to do separate "art" again but in a way my life is my statement and the experiences I've had define me and guide me. The logic and the emotion are in balance, coexisting and each having their moments of expression. I'm kinda like the ball balanced on a book edge, and if I fall either way, it's toward the "rational detached observer", but otherwise it's pretty close and I get scared sometimes at the strength of emotions that I find triggered, based on the values I've collected over this life journey. Sometimes I find myself reacting in ways that unsettle me or that I rationally know could be seen as "irrational" by others, but they have their own kind of truth to them and I try to go with it. IOW, controlling and smothering my identity and ideas and reactions to things is no longer something I care much to do.
Anyway, out of the two, I always trusted my observation and detached philosophy the most, but next to that the "journey of self" (or game of you) has been the next largest thing for me. I'm pretty typical 5w4 in terms of where my mind and emotions can go -- some crazy dark landscapes, without being unsettled by them... or maybe it is better to say that the intensity and unsettled feeling is actually something that I personally respond to as a positive ... it stimulates me in some way. (I tend to be counter-phobic when dealing with fears, and I'm very willing to do things that scare me in order to understand them and incorporate knowledge of them into myself.)
It's like all the drama that the stereotypical Four might express outwardly is very manifest in my internal world of feeling. I tend to be very epic and melodramatic internally, while laughing at myself at the same time internally because I'm totally aware of it. Basically, I prefer to let the rationality rule my exterior state and actual behavior but meanwhile give the emotional aspect as much free rein as possible to increase my creativity and intensity of feeling since I feel there is an energy and aspect of truth to that experience.