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    Default Enneagram 6's. Omg help.

    I thought having an E6 as a boss was rough... having them as subordinates is just as bad! Its just fucking anxiety constantly. ANd they work their asses off to stave off the anxiety. And then as their boss who isn't a 6, I'm sitting calmly in my office meditating. They now talk behind my back about how lazy I am, or how they're worried about me because all I do is sit in my office being anxious! I'm not "Sitting in my office being anxious," I'm meditating and planning my next move, or enjoying some hot cocoa once in a while.

    Its like they're completely fucking oblivious to the fact that other people don't have the same problems they do!

    Its like, they are this self sufficient cloud of hell that supports itself and I need to just fucking get out of the way. But when I get out of the way, they think I'm no longer supporting them, so they take over and start doubting my leadership, and giving me that fucking "you left me out to die!" look on their face.

    And I can't escape their anxiety. Working with them is completely miserable. If I move out of the house they live in, they visit me every day. If drive away in the car, they call my cell phone looking for validation on their decision!

    "Just tell them to leave you alone." I did that. I saw pain in their eyes. And then several of them started badmouthing me about how "I just want to play CEO" and "I just wanna be this" and "I just wanna do that" or how i"m completely selfish.

    I'm at a loss. I have no idea how to deal with these people anymore. This is miserable and I don't know how to fucking satisfy their expectations. It seems like whenever I give them something they just want more, and when I take it away, they stop working entirely.

    *pulls hair out*

    Please help. I feel like I'm supposed to completely ignore all emotions and thoughts running through their head and just do what I do and they will follow. I don't like it, but I'm starting to not take anything they think or feel seriously and view them as extremely predictable. Its like I'm this dude walking down the street and they're dancing around me waving their arms and poking me with sticks to see what I do. And it just never fucking ends. My full time job is to get poked with sticks from all directions. Unbelievable.

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    It feels like I'm being attacked by puddies except I'm not allowed to beat the shit out of them because we are supposed to be friends or something.

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    Yea I can't stand 6s. They are by far the type that rubs me the wrong way the most. They like to project everything that is true for them on to other people. Fire them and hire ISTJ 1s.

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    lmao thank you for validating my thoughts. But "firing" people is kind of a last resort. I have come to trust these guys' abilities.

    Should I hire an E3 middle manager for them to latch onto? Can E3's or E9's handle this better than I can?

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    I think they want me to tell them they're doing a good job, which I for some reason am extremely objectionable on. OO OO LOOK AT ME HOW DID I DO? god why. I'm going to cry. I'm gonna call my former naval commander father he might know what to do.

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    Is this one of those things where some guy goes on some intensely homophobic rant only for it to be revealed that he's been frequenting bath houses for the past thirty years?
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    Find a way to integrate them to Type 9. God your situation sounds tough, I can't imagine being stuck with a bunch of 6s like that. And what's worse, they're probably Prussian 6s. I can't stand them for thirty seconds let alone a whole work day. Hang in there.

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    @Azure Flame

    I don't think you really have the money for that right now. Maybe later. Yea they are looking for affirmation. Employee of the month ect. Try picking something about them that you like and tell them they are awesome at it. It will go a long way.

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    I can relate but not really offer helpful advice at the moment.
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    my father is a retired commander in the navy and he had some helpful things to tell me. One of the biggest problems is that I don't actually have any privacy. I seem to believe I don't need any, but that's wrong. So my biggest obstacle right now is trying to figure out how to get privacy. The money is tight but I can figure it out somehow.

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