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    Default How can you tell whether you 'love' a person?

    Not necessarily in a romantic way - like loving a family member.

    Just realized that I find pretty hard to tell.

    I had to ask myself 'If that person died ('God' forbid), how would you feel?', and then the answer seemed almost obvious.

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    What a great question. Damned if I know, but I will read the replies with interest.
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    When you keep trying to help them even when you know your efforts aren't appreciated and your hard work will be undone by an act of sabotage.

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    When I consider myself lucky for knowing them. When I find myself lowering my guard. When I want to do things for them, stuff they didn't even ask me for.

    The way I act and look at the world is different... improved, I think.
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    The question you had to ask yourself (about them dying) was getting yourself to recognize their value to you. Loving someone is valuing them intrinsically, not based on what they do for you or something more utilitarian. In seeing what losing them would mean, then you see what value they have to you.

    FYI, I am NF and I don't feel some surge of emotion when I think of my loved ones. I am just aware of an attachment to them & what they mean to me, but it's not some warm, gooey feeling. I think the awareness just shows the focus on "personal value" and "human meaning" I have.
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    Valuing someone intrinsically, that's a perfect breakdown.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    FYI, I am NF and I don't feel some surge of emotion when I think of my loved ones. I am just aware of an attachment to them & what they mean to me, but it's not some warm, gooey feeling. I think the awareness just shows the focus on "personal value" and "human meaning" I have.
    I do, ironically enough. Actually, I love when I get warm gooey feelings. Everything else looks brighter and sharper, too.
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    In my experience, when you no longer mentally picture quotes around the word love. But I think that really only works for those of us who have an invested interest in keeping the quotes on.

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    Love? Wow. It's a word, but can't describe all the intricacies of the concept. I believe loving someone is trading bits of your soul with theirs, willingly, for better or worse. Of course, I'm just a 4w5, so I could be dreaming the whole experience.
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