Yes. Very true.Originally Posted by Z Buck McFate
So this is where I think you are misunderstanding the interpretation of CP6 behavior. First, I'm going to say this phenomenon you are describing with CP6's, if not reigned in, can be damaging to people - even to the CP6. We often get hung with our own noose when we lose the "big picture" of what we are "crusading" for. In turn, we can look petty and vindictive. It's a CP6 off the rails, not a CP6 in control and effective....and on the ‘more stressed’ end of things it’s as if a person starts to feel like some kind of self-contained judge and jury. That seems like self-righteousness to me, because I don’t understand how someone could feel confident impulsively casting stones at the ‘bad guys’ unless they feel morally superior- isn’t there some kind of ‘bad guy’ designation going on in their head and they’re automatically coming from a place of assuming ‘good guy’ for themselves?
Okay. So things rarely start that way for the CP6. You mention self-righteousness as a factor in motivation of behavior. I'm not saying it can't look that way but from the CP6 perspective - it is completely not. CP6's generally fight a LOT of self doubt. Like, tremendous. What we have is "group-righteousness". We are usually a strong proponent of the underdog. We don't like unfairness - at all. A CP6 guards that very strongly.
In fact, as a child, I once stood up to an entire class who was bullying a fellow classmate. She was just crying at her desk while people were throwing insults. I thought, enough is enough. That is a good side of a CP6's crusading. Was that self-righteous to assume she needed help and that I could be that person? Maybe not in that case but this is the thought process of a CP6. "What jimmy is doing is not fair. I've seen jimmy do this x number of times before. Now it's time to speak up and stop jimmy from -------." So the problem is irrelevant to the CP6. The thought pattern is the same.
What looks like impulsive judgement is really observation of action over time. CP6's are keen on this but unfortunately rarely verbally express these "proofs". So it can look like arrogance/self-righteous crusading with no merit. Personally, when asked why I "treat so and so that way" and I have explained "next time you are around said person watch what they do in this circumstance, they will do x, and y (selfish or fucked up behavior)". People have come back to me and said "I really wish you didn't tell me that. Now I see what you are saying".
Totally. But the CP6 is not the one casting the first stone. They are inherently reactive. Can they make mistakes on their observational conclusions? Yes. Can they over-react? Yes! This is probably what you are seeing - a CP6 reacting and possibly not having critical information. Or a less mature CP6 who hasn't learned which battles to forget and which to fight. The more mature and balanced a CP6 is, the more patience and time they have before reacting.This is on the far stressed end, to be sure- but that’s true of all the e-types, egos only ever really turn to coping mechanisms (to ‘block information from themselves’) under duress. Under truly egalitarian views though, I would think people wouldn’t feel such a need to cast stones (“let he who has not sinned cast the first stone…”).
They will often be seen acting aggressively because once they decide to go after a cause or person (after that period of personally silently gathering observations, etc) They take action against said threat. This looks super aggressive and often is. CP6's think it's obvious what the other party is doing and explaining their thought process is not a high priority. However, CP6's, if you sincerely and privately ask them about why they do or think certain ways. They might explain and in turn be open to another opinion they didn't see. That self-doubt keeps us open.
FYI. I really think Brandi Glanville from RHOBH is a great example of a CP6.