Alight owl
New member
- Joined
- Feb 26, 2013
- Messages
- 27
- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 4w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
I keep my melodramatic emotions under wraps, yes. But most feedback from other people about me sounds 4ish. I don't know anyone in person who is into enneagram, so no one references any type directly. But all of the adjectives they assign to me reek of 4, especially with a 5 wing. Much of the criticism I've received in life sounds like issues these two types tend to have also.
thanks. reflecting with this in mind really demonstrates that it's true for me as well, especially lately as i allow myself to be more vulnerable with people and with myself. for some reason i started this thread when i was thinking about friends who have mistyped me- how it is hard to let people get close who we aren't forced to be close to. however, when i ask people who have been close to me (my sisters, my mom, my husband) they have immediately pointed to 4.
i have always had a really hard time:
1) accepting feedback of any kind (by accepting, i mean in the usual way, but also physically letting it in. i relate to the sp4 experience of being stuck in my own skin bubble. i have to consciously try to hear what others are saying. sometimes i hear but it takes a second for it to register or sink in. sometimes it takes years.)
2) getting people to give me feedback. people are afraid of / intimidated by me! i kind of love that, but it's also extremely isolating.
3) getting close enough to people that they have any feedback to give me (besides that i'm intimidating or aloof)