Hi! Well... I'm very sleepy at the moment. That video was actually recorded yesterday night, lol. To answer your question: I, as an INFJ 4w3, usually feel unknown, but it doesn't bother me as much (only in close interpersonal relationships, but I'd try to find ways for them to know me). Reading your post, it sounds like you're hidden due to fear of being seen... I'm not sure if that's necessarily the individualist coming out. I think you might have some emotional blocks that you'd need to resolve before searching for true identity. When you suppress negative emotions, the good often goes along with it. You'd want to feel like you could emote freely, and in doing so, you will eventually find comfort in your identity. Easier said than done, but emotional regulation is key here. Allowing negative emotions to overpower, yet not dealing with the repercussions well indicates that you aren't doing what's positive for *you*.
By the way, nobody is truly known. This only bothers some more than others. It depends on what's important to you, your personal preferences.