@SD45T-2 @EJCC Thanks both of you! I'm still not quite sure what do about the situation other than avoid her (which is not really my style). In the past I've responded to the things she said to me instead of stoping and pointing out that what she said was not okay to start with. Perhaps there's something there.
The last incident was actually an Enneagram based project I'm doing that she participated in. While I was interviewing my 2's, the 1's were standing by waiting for their interview and just listening. One of the 2's was describing his experience and said something like, "...I know that's such a teenage girl type of response, but that's how I experience it." To reassure him, I said, "believe me, every Enneagram type has it's teenage girl-ish tendencies." At that point the 1 in question barks out from behind me, "oh, except 4's. Right?" I was so confused, but responded by saying that actually 4 is probably the most teenage girl like. In hindsight, I realize that's probably not true (or even measurable) but I have a tendency to be extremely vulnerable (or even overly critical of myself) in the face of criticism. It generally does diffuse the situation because criticism can not offend or hurt someone who is already fully aware of all their crap.
Do you think it would have helped if I'd responded differently? Like maybe actually addressed her statement. I kind of just want to ask her why she has a chip on her shoulder, but I know she'd probably get indignant and fire back at me. :sigh: Perhaps I should have just said, "why would you say that?" or "where did that come from?" because that's kind of how I felt.
@EJCC Do you know any 4's IRL? If so, do you get along with them?