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    Default Obsession with attractiveness

    My whole identity and source of confidence is based on my looks and sense of style; if I didnt have that, I'd feel like a nobody. When I look or dress bad, I literally don't feel like myself; I am how I look. Is this a heart triad thing, or an instinctual variant thing?

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    Are you enneagram 3? lol

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    Ha ha you're gonna get old and ugly. And probably fat. People are gonna think you're nasty. Lol.

    But really, I doubt it's either of the things you mentioned. I think it's just that you know you're an unlovable piece of shit deep inside.

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    Quote Originally Posted by zago View Post
    Ha ha you're gonna get old and ugly. And probably fat. People are gonna think you're nasty. Lol.

    But really, I doubt it's either of the things you mentioned. I think it's just that you know you're an unlovable piece of shit deep inside.
    Bingo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Glycerine View Post
    Are you enneagram 3? lol
    I don't have the persistent drive or academic excellence of a 3

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stansmith View Post
    Bingo.
    So what happened to you long ago that made you think you were bad inside?

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    Quote Originally Posted by zago View Post
    So what happened to you long ago that made you think you were bad inside?
    Basically it was comparing myself to other people. It started in middle school when I was overweight and noticed that the people I looked up to were skinny. Very feminine of me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stansmith View Post
    Basically it was comparing myself to other people. It started in middle school when I was overweight and noticed that the people I looked up to were skinny. Very feminine of me
    Understandable. Did you hammer yourself to death with exercise or have an eating disorder or anything?

    The bad news is that you won't find the connection you're looking for through your appearance. People will love you for just that... and then when it fades, as I implied before, you will have no choice but to face it. It will break your heart, if it's not broken already.

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    Actually I take that back. You won't have to face it. You could just seek another means of finding connection, like becoming a religious fanatic or getting fibromyalgia and going for people's sympathy. Or maybe you could avoid it altogether and become an alcoholic. There's more. Just saying, you don't have to face it, ever I guess.

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    BTW one last thing, it is definitely ok to take some pleasure in your appearance. Sometimes ya just look in the mirror and go, wow, sexy (sometimes not. And sometimes you want to fix it up a little). The point at which it becomes unhealthy is when you are slaving away over it for fear of being rejected if it isn't perfect.

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