User Tag List

Results 1 to 6 of 6

  1. #1
    Senior Member Chiharu's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2011
    MBTI
    ENFP
    Enneagram
    7w6 sx/so
    Socionics
    ENFp None
    Posts
    681

    Default Escaping unhealthy levels

    I'm drowning here. Please help.
    Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness." ― Kurt Vonnegut

    ENFP. 7w6 – 4w3 – 1w9 sx/so. Aries. Dilettante. Overly anxious optimist.

  2. #2
    Sugar Hiccup OrangeAppled's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    4w5 sp/sx
    Socionics
    IEI Ni
    Posts
    7,661

    Default

    Okay, less theoretical & more practical input:

    - Interact more with people (in person, not online). Even when you're not in the mood. This can help you to regulate the mood in real time when around others. The mood doesn't rule you.
    - Be honest & open with people. The shroud of mystery just alienates & you're not being self-absorbed when you open up. They are likely not going to reject the you at core that you think is so ugly (or whatever).
    - Don't make people come to you so much, including doing things to attract them; go to them instead. Do it with the idea that you have something significant to bring them, not because you need them to feel more whole or whatever.
    - Develop some kind of schedule for eating, sleeping, work, etc. You might want to start a workout routine. This is going to help you stabilize moods.
    - Find something unselfish & "noble" & start devoting time to it. Bonus if it conflicts with your image of yourself or makes you compromise it in the name of something higher. Looks for way to be principled.
    - Replace negative thoughts with positive ones as they occur & focus on what you HAVE & appreciating it over what is missing or lost.
    - Let go of the past. It's not who you are anymore & doesn't dictate what will be. Don't over-fantasize about the future. Just be in it as it unfolds.

    I have no idea if that addresses your actual situation, but hopefully some of it helps a bit.
    Often a star was waiting for you to notice it. A wave rolled toward you out of the distant past, or as you walked under an open window, a violin yielded itself to your hearing. All this was mission. But could you accomplish it? (Rilke)

    INFP | 4w5 sp/sx | RLUEI - Primary Inquisitive | Tritype is tripe

  3. #3
    Senior Member zago's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    INTP
    Posts
    1,171

    Default

    The only way up is down.

  4. #4
    Nips away your dignity Fluffywolf's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    9 sp/sx
    Posts
    9,422

    Default

    Escaping unhealthy levels is a long and ardious process. Not something that can be decided on just like that.

    But, although it's a bit cliché, realization of ones unhealthy levels is the first and most important step towards betterment.

    A good way to train is to move yourself into positions in which you exhibit those unhealthy levels, catch yourself in the act, stop yourself (very hard to do), take a step back and find a better way to deal with the situation (may require sacrifices in the form of time or even humility).

    Basicly, what OrangeAppled said is a good starting point to do this.

    Unhealthy levels are often like an addiction. It's your 'easy way out' (even though it never really is an easy way out, but it does feel like that to you at that time). The only way to deal with addiction is by depriving yourself of it forcefully.

    As you do this, you will start to develop the tools you need to avoid these unhealthy levels alltogether, and it just keeps on getting better and better. and you'll exhibit these unhealthy levels less and less.

    Although this is pretty general. It's pretty much how I dealt with some of my shortcomings over the last 10 years of my life.
    ~Self-depricating Megalomaniacal Superwolf

  5. #5
    Senior Member Survive & Stay Free's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    MBTI
    ESTJ
    Enneagram
    9 so/sx
    Posts
    21,628

    Default

    Unhealthy levels?

  6. #6
    Nips away your dignity Fluffywolf's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    9 sp/sx
    Posts
    9,422

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    Unhealthy levels?
    Enneagram has a sort of level system with various stages. The lower levels usually being linked to depressions, lack of self-confidence, frustrations, detachement, etc. And it explains in what way the enneagram type will react to their surroundings when experiencing this.
    ~Self-depricating Megalomaniacal Superwolf

Similar Threads

  1. Morler's Levels of Emotional Maturity
    By machintruc in forum General Psychology
    Replies: 65
    Last Post: 04-13-2009, 07:14 PM
  2. [NF] negative traits of unhealthy NF
    By sakuraba in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 35
    Last Post: 12-06-2008, 11:03 PM
  3. Let's "level" about type issues
    By ygolo in forum Myers-Briggs and Jungian Cognitive Functions
    Replies: 42
    Last Post: 09-18-2007, 07:39 AM
  4. Replies: 8
    Last Post: 09-17-2007, 05:22 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO