The power to be left alone is the best kind of power. Power over other people is a drag and a bother. It's one of the things I've liked least about parenting: you can't just live and let live with a three year old if you want them to live.
“There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.” ~ John Rogers
When I was a kid, I wanted to be in charge of everything my friends and I did, so once in a while, I would end up telling them what we should do. I also had one group of friends where we'd always end up doing what I wanted to do. As I've gotten older, I've learned to ask people more about what they want.
Control is a big thing for me, I must keep it especially in regards to myself, I will not rely on others for anything without fighting against it. It can be a form of power, but it's not about asserting myself over others.
Power is more something that I'm resistant to anyone else having over me.