for the record, I see you as a 7w6 Sp/Sx. your energy is much more vibrant and carefree than a 6.
to respond to your post though, the 6 is there, it's just buried below the surface and I hide it well. I seek a fair amount of external confirmation because, contrary to what you said, I do have a tendency to over think things sometimes and often don't trust my own decision making power (not trusting one's self is really the core issue of 6). that said, this is a good example of why I believe subwings are important. being a 7w6sw8w7, the influence of the 6 wing is less prominent and accompanied by a side dish of 8w7. (I described the subwings of 7w6 a bit more in my second to last post)
edit: I'll expand cuz I'm an attention whore XD
6 traits
- seeking external confirmation, as if to say "has anyone else noticed this or am I crazy?"
- a heightened sense of danger
- stuck in my head and poor at taking action (7w6) as opposed to action oriented and impulsive (7w8)
- a lack of focused, realistic goals (7w6) as opposed to lack of future oriented thinking, an inability to delay gratification and reckless behavior (7w8)
- cowardice when confronted with a genuine threat. I ran away when prompted to do anything dangerous or scary as a child
- preparation for future threats. one of the reasons I'm generally good in conflict situations is because I plan out how I will respond to various types of threats (physical, verbal etc)
- clear personal boundaries that I've set up to protect myself
- when I was younger, I knew I was insecure, so I analyzed powerful, secure people who I believed were good representations of how strong, virtuous, high class men behaved and thought. eventually, I began to grasp their state of mind and it became much more internal (this is probably why the 6 is less obvious. NFPs are good at internalizing things that resonate with them)
- instances of elaborately premeditated violence. revenge is often attributed to 8, but, in my opinion, it's much more prevalent among 6s. for 8s, revenge is an in the moment thing and something that few situations would be a big enough deal to warrant; for a 6 a wrong, perceived wrong or anticipated wrong can spark a frenzy of creative sadistic thought. 6s are more aware of their weaknesses than 8s and realize that they need to be more unpredictable and sudden to win also, 8s take a much more direct approach to revenge. generally, they'll simply kick your ass and leave. nothing fancy, not much thought to it. 6s on the other hand can spend hours scheming up elaborate scenarios of how they're going to torture you, humiliate you or kill you in the most inhumane, painful way possible.
- a desire for predictability and security. I'm an ENFP 7, so obviously the SJ routine-centric lifestyle is not going to be my cup of tea, but I do want a job where I can go into work and say "I know how to do this" and "I work from this time to this time" as opposed to a job with more unpredictable hours, more sporadic problems and a less clear sense of when you're actually done. when the latter occurs, I over think, dread going to work and do a bit of a hamster wheel in my mind thinking "did I do that?" "did I miss something?" "what if there was something else?" switching from a vocal performance major to an accounting major has eased my mind drastically
- learning to quiet my mind is something that took a very long time for me to get a grip on. while I've gotten a lot better about it, there's still a buzz of mental activity that I don't even realize until I'm about to go to bed. going to sleep feels like a computer being shut down that has to close 50 programs before it can shut off properly
8 traits
- a general feeling of invincibility (ironic when you consider the second 6-ish tendency I mentioned)
- "sucking the air out of the room" when I walk in
- territorial of possessions and what I believe is my decision to make
- a tendency to deny "weaker" emotions in myself (less so recently, the last few months have been a HUGE emotional transformation)
- a genuine enjoyment of conflict. it's the difference between "I'm not afraid of you! I can take you!" (cp6) and "hahaha! let's see what you got!" (8). 8s test and size up their opponent to see if they've found a worthy sparring partner while 6s want to test themselves to prove to themselves that they can actually do it. (I share a little bit of both qualities
- controlling under stress. I start to dehumanize people.
- I view very little as a threat. in fact, it borders on arrogant sometimes (8 is probably the most genuinely arrogant type; 6-ish arrogance is more contrived). I view most people as pathetic little mice that do nothing but squeak while I am a cat who either chooses to play with them before eating or ignores them.
- both 6s and 8s are disobedient, but 6s to do so more reactively, rebelliously or passive aggressively. 8s simply tell you what they're going to do and then do it. "rebelling" would only give the impression that you actually had any authority over them in the first place.
- more grounded, self assured energy.
- easily enforce boundaries: if my 6 influence forms boundaries for self preservation, my 8 influence makes them clear to people. this is nonverbal 98% and easily dealt with another 1% of the time (usually something as easy as "hey, could you stop that? thanks" is enough). it's only about 1% of the time I actually have to check people, though I wish it were more. conflict to me is like an action movie. you enjoy the fight scenes and get bored in between (though, with 6 as the wing of my core type, I don't like confrontation that poses a serious threat. if there is any threat of permanent injury or death, I'm not sticking around).
- my speech is choleric, unapologetic and generally a lot more forceful than I realize, to the point where it makes people uneasy when I don't even feel angry or critical.
the 8 traits are more prevalent, but they also affect me less than the 6 traits and the 8 traits overlap more with other aspects of my type (which can make the 8 influence appear heavier than it actually is)