Yeah, the arts are a big outlet for me. Chicks also totally dig musicians.
I don't seek out fights much. If it happens, it happens. I'm really fairly relaxed about confrontation, but do my best to avoid the unnecessary ones.
I relate to this.
I have a lot of rage, but worked on managing it and channeling it early in my life. My parents are both high-IQ psychiatrists, which helps; because they recognized how much energy I had and got me engaged in a lot of activities. By the time I was 13 I had a career in music, and had already learned to channel a lot of my rage into the songs I would write. My energy had somewhere to go: I'd stay up all night practicing or writing songs. So, I would say yes, I have an anger problem, innately; but at this point in my life, for the most part, I don't pick fights. Sometimes I channel my energy into songs and novels that I write, or I go to the gym and it gets purged; or sometimes, I find myself on my political page where I get into heated arguments with people. But I've rarely ever started a physical fight. I'll go with direct verbal confrontation when necessary, but I'd prefer to avoid unnecessary confrontation as well.
All the same, I think there's a lot of power in being able to manage one's emotions even in difficult situations. Now I'm just working out when it's called for versus when to just let loose on someone.
i get annoyed, frustrated easily.
but it goes away very fast too.
there are very few triggers where
i completely lose control and just
explode--everyone must suffer.
and i will not know. when. to. stop.
(well usually when i feel they are
suffering more than i am, then
i be like ok... cool offfff)
it's gotten better with age, as in,
i try to remove myself from the
situation, it's like i can feel it bubbling
up. because i can only get to that point
when it involved the ones i love the most,
and shitting on them is just, so...the satisfaction
is so fleeting. then i just feel bad afterwards.
but in the moment. oh boy.
though most of the time, i like pushing buttons,
and i get riled up, so i can push more buttons.
i have no idea if that makes sense.
every normal man must be tempted, at times,
to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag,
and begin slitting throats.
If 8s can channel that anger into something they love, they tend to soar, imho. As I said...I love watching that firestorm they carry within
I also find it a relief to encounter someone who for once *isnt* going to be afraid of my own intensity and will match it piece for piece. It's like the Opera voice meeting the Church Organ in a bone chilling song when we go toe to toe
However, if they are still fighting with themselves, that energy can be chaotic and hit innocent people. Harm them, as such, which is definitely something to watch out for. I personally don't mind being near someone like that, as I calculate the risk for myself before going there, but many people seem to not pick it up until it is too late.
In my experience, being angry is almost never a good thing.
I live with a female ESTP 8w7, and when she's angry she just cleans the entire house, blasts music in her headphones and curses to herself under her breath.
She's the girlfriend of one of my guy friends. So, we view her as that and nothing else. She gets pissed off frequently, and when she's pissed she usually just stands up and leaves to go be by herself without saying anything, meanwhile we just look at each other pursing our lips in social discomfort.
She gets upset when we cook dinner and don't invite her. She expects to be included, but simultaneously never makes any effort to include us in anything she does, or invite us to anything she does for that matter.
She expects us to approach her and treat her kindly, however her guard is up constantly. When I hang out with her one on one she's pretty funny, and pretty cool.
Girl just needs to let her guard down. Its unconsciously reciprocated by everyone when its up.
Looking at some ENFJ's I know, they actually, very persistently, talk to me in a way that they look harmless and try to open up, which I appreciate. However most personalities don't have this kind of patience, so we end up just hating most people for not trying, never truly understanding how we're doing it to ourselves. This self fulfilling rejection is the main cause of my, and several other 8's I know's, anger issues.
I also used to punch my brother when he wouldn't play board games with me, glare into my father's eyes with pure hatred when he would make his stupid estj declarations of my character. There are many times I'd have loved to sock him in the jaw.
Most of my anger issues were caused by rejection and being misunderstood.
"I felt like putting a bullet between the eyes of every Panda that wouldn't screw to save its species. I wanted to open the dump valves on oil tankers and smother all the French beaches I'd never see. I wanted to breathe smoke."
Your representative owes you, not his industry only, but his judgment; and he betrays, instead of serving you, if he sacrifices it to your opinion.
- Edmund Burke