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    Default E8's attracting damsels in distress?

    Why do I have so many damsels in distress flocking to me telling me their tales of woe?

    Why do I actually feel like I can save them?

    Why does it feel like they're the only women I develop incredible attraction toward? The rest all just seem... ordinary?

    Is there something wrong with me or my mindset?

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    Yep. Something's definitely wrong with you. You should get that fixed.

    Seriously though, damsels in distress annoy me. It's like "what are you doing to fix the problem?"

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    Yeah, when I think damsel in distress, I think weak ego or something along those lines that make me roll my eyes in disgust. Where's the self-respect or the shame?

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    Well, I'm very aware of the bullshit ones. The ones who don't have a job, don't have their shit together, are a waste of oxygen. I don't bother with them.

    Its the other ones, the ones who are hurting emotionally in some way. They got all their shit together but are recovering from some past pain.

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    Yeah, I seem to attract the ones who've had that kind of thing happen to them in the past. The ones who are currently like that can be ok if they're working towards a solution.

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    Point and laugh.

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    I both attract and am attracted to damsels in distress, to my great detriment and peril

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJ Arendee View Post
    Why do I have so many damsels in distress flocking to me telling me their tales of woe?
    Maybe because they sense that you can save them.

    Why do I actually feel like I can save them?
    MAYBE BECAUSE YOU CAN! Maybe you're just what they need and they can smell that. Maybe your perspective and attitudes and beliefs are that which they need more of, they sense that, so they gravitate.

    Why does it feel like they're the only women I develop incredible attraction toward? The rest all just seem... ordinary?
    Because they show their vulnerability, which makes you feel like you're really connecting with them?

    Is there something wrong with me or my mindset?
    Not as far as you wrote... unless you're power tripping and don't really care about them.

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    I generally attract interesting people who have their shit together.
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    I generally attract people that WANT to get their shit together, more often than not.

    I have a love/hate relationship with damsels in distress. A part of me LOVES to fix shit. The extrovert in me naturally applies that to people as well. If I can help fix something in someone's life, even if it is as simple as doing a favor.. it is better for me. Then I don't have to tell them I like them and care about them. I can be like "Of course he's my friend, I fixed his tire didn't I?! And I helped him with learning to cook healthy! How can he say I don't care?!" I sort of communicate through my actions, so it gives me prime opportunity to be emotional in a way I know how and am most comfortable with. It's an amazing exchange.. really truly bailing someone out of a bind, doing a kindness for them in a way they were unable to do themselves.. It does amazing things for the esteem.

    But.. The downside to this, is that it wears on me. Anything over an extended period of time. I am naturally annoyed by lazy, apathetic, dispassionate situations where people "want" to get out of the rut they are in but don't REALLY want it because they just don't MOVE towards it. It is taxing to see someone with potential to improve their situation not do so willingly. I'm pretty short tempered with things like depression and anxiety, which I've learned to deal with on my own vs taking it out on the person dealing with that sort of thing, but the annoyance and impatience is there. It's like.. I know I can't blame them for it, but I can't help getting angry about it either. And, of course, it is annoying to see gold advice wasted. /arrogance.

    "How do I get my life together?"
    BAM! Here's how citizen!
    "Oh wow! That sounds awesome!"
    Sounds?.. I don't like that word.. it is usually a precursor to--
    "Maybe I'll try that.."
    --the maybe word.. which usually means..
    "But I don't know. I think I'm just too old for school. and I don't like to study."


    What starts out as a crusade to get rid of all the villains in a person's life turns into a taxing pile of excuses for why the villains are really not so bad at all. It's like everyone's got Stockholm's Syndrome, and their sub-par life they complain about is their kidnapper.
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