Unconditional self-acceptance may be hard for everyone (necessary as it is), but it seems like it's especially hard for Ones. By nature, from a One's eyes, everything ends up being viewed as either "perfect" or "flawed", as either deserving or undeserving of blame/praise. If there's a reward, there's a reason for it. Plus points for good behavior, a slap on the wrist for bad. In other words: pretty much nothing ends up being accepted unconditionally.
Fellow Ones: How do you get yourself out of this mindset when looking at yourself? Is there a process, to learning how to forgive yourself? Do you actively work towards it, or does it happen naturally?