I relate to the love/hate relationship with anger, feeling the need to explode yet knowing that would be wrong so pulling it back. My anger shows up for different reasons and comes out in different ways, however as a gut type there are relevant shared factors and points that should concern us both.
Originally Posted by EJCC
One of the key things for gut types is actually noticing when anger is rising, as it is rising, it's a sign something isn't okay and something needs to be done before anger comes out in an over-the-top way. If you are hitting the point where you want to rage then there have been opportunities prior where things could have changed direction, and it is often too late to back track and calm down. In order to click into them earlier self-observation, with an understanding of what happens when you are getting angry, the how/why/what's of it is needed.
This exert from Palmer may help, her focus is work and relationships:
A life dedicated to perfection requires heroic effort. You can't help noticing when standards slip and no one else feels guilty. How can they ignore this? Have they no shame? The tension builds. Something has to be done. You start to see details slipping out of order. If others don't notice and you do, then you'll be held responsible. Your conscious goes wild when error is overlooked. "I saw. I knew. I'm guilty". You can't leave it alone. You feel compelled to fix it. You don't recognize the rising signals of anger. The tension feels entirely appropriate. Tension means you're trying hard. You brace for greater effort.
If focusing on error becomes automatic, self-observation stops. All you know is that you're working desperately hard, that you see loose ends everywhere, and you can't rest until it's finished. The scope of the task enlarges. More details appear. It's late. It's out of control. Your mind flogs you for being tired and helpless. It's maddening that other people don't care. You don't realise how angry you are until you hear the jagged edge in your voice and feel the fury spiking through your body.
Anger leads to action. You can't hold back that shot of lightning. You know exactly what's wrong, because it's infuriating. Something perfect has been ruined. You can't keep quiet. You're too mad to care about overreacting. Attention locks on the right way to fix what's gone wrong, and anger fuels your conviction.
Ones grow by knowing what they want instead of what would be right. They grow by relaxing, by letting pleasure in. You have a choice when you can read the natural signals of anger and watch your mind begin to focus on error.
They can be helped in relationships by people who accept differences of opinions, who soften the one right way to perfection, and who are open to pleasure.