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    Default 6s: easy-going but wound up?

    Well, this applies to me. Laid-back but also paranoid/worrying...etc. I've had good friends, who know me quite well, describe me as both.

    I'm laid-back as in I don't sweat a lot - if not most - of the small stuff. Things which irritate a lot of other people, or which they're picky about, etc, just does not get to me at all. I just don't care. Or not enough to let it be a problem, or make it into one.

    However, when I DO care, I care intensely and probably to a somewhat scary extent - and that includes the things that make me anxious, that I'm paranoid about and worry about. So it seems like any time on a given day, I'm usually coming across as more relaxed than average, or more wound up than average...

    Do other 6s relate to this? It just seems like a bit of a paradox, is why I'm asking. Although - it does fit quite well with me being a 6 and an INFJ. I do think that one of the reasons why a lot of things don't bother me is because I know that when things DO bother me - they bother me so much that it can wreck my life. And I don't want something genuinely minor to become a big deal and have a bad effect on me...
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    Yeah, that's me in a nutshell. Actually, for me, I think a lot of times I come off laid back but have a ton of secret anxieties. Since a lot of them are kind of silly/ unfounded.. (or founded in something but my conclusion is really far fetched). So when I try to present my anxiety a lot of people don't realize I'm actually anxious... like REALLY anxious, half the time I'm not even really sure what I'm anxious about. So I just say things like. "I'm anxious." hahaha, it doesn't get too much sympathy, which is fine. (But secretly I can be horrified/paranoid/debilitated.) Most of the time my anxiety just causes me to withdraw into myself and just be really quiet which produces all these like- physical symptoms, (belly aches, extreme fatigue, appetite loss, rashes, gray hair, etc.) But when I carefully work through what's bothering me or resolve the problem that I care about (as you say) , (sometimes that takes hours or days or months) I become laid back again and dye my hair and drink some smoothies and stuff.
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    Yeah id say you just described me perfectly.
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    Yup, that's me.
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    Yeah that's me. I've got this counterphobic thing going on with authority. If I expect problems, I wind up really tight.. and just chill, ready to unleash on them. If that doesn't get triggered, I ironically look polite and relaxed. If it does get triggered, it really throws people off guard.

    I am in my element a lot of the time when the worst happens, I look capable and in charge.. because I've been planning for it. When things are going fine, my mind can start racing, and I get anxious looking for the next danger.

    And yes, I get it.. I push problems that I have no control over away from my awareness, because I know ultimately I'll end up breaking down. So I can be in a tempest and look as if I'm ignorant of it.

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    Yeah. 6s are like Tweety Bird, easy-going but afraid and vigilants toward danger that can happen, like a puddy tat.
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    Thanks guys. I guess I am a fairly normal 6 then. It sort of works!
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    I used to manage a U-Haul, we used radios. One day a radio went missing (they're easily misplaced) and an employee brought it up to me. I didn't really say anything, and he asked me if I cared. I told him if course I care, but what do you want me to do, shit one out to replace it?

    Needless to say, I'm not very good at management.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Qlip View Post
    Yeah that's me. I've got this counterphobic thing going on with authority. If I expect problems, I wind up really tight.. and just chill, ready to unleash on them. If that doesn't get triggered, I ironically look polite and relaxed. If it does get triggered, it really throws people off guard.

    I am in my element a lot of the time when the worst happens, I look capable and in charge.. because I've been planning for it. When things are going fine, my mind can start racing, and I get anxious looking for the next danger.

    And yes, I get it.. I push problems that I have no control over away from my awareness, because I know ultimately I'll end up breaking down. So I can be in a tempest and look as if I'm ignorant of it.
    I relate to this.
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