EDIT - I don't think I have BPD. I am not self-diagnosing with BPD. I am interested in the overlap between Sx 6 and BPD and common etiology.
Yesterday I had a particularly bad day (thank you, hormones) and my boyfriend and I together realized that I lean quite a bit towards having borderline tendencies, and upon further research I am beginning to see quite a correlation between Sexual Six issues and borderline issues, and I was wondering if any other Sexual subtypes, Sixes, or especially Sexual Sixes have experienced similar issues and/or have any thoughts on the topic.
From the Wiki page, BPD's features include:
- unstable interpersonal relationships
- affective (mood) distress
- unstable self image
- frequent, strong, and lasting states of aversive tension triggered by perceived reection, being alone, or perceived failure
- changeability between anger and anxiety or depression and anxiety
- temperamental sensitivity to emotive stimuli
- feelings of emptiness
Personally, I do struggle with almost all of those bullets, except I have never self-injured, have relatively low/normal impulsivity, and my close relationships are relatively stable, though they have regular bouts of intense turmoil (brought on by either person but admittedly blown up by my insecurity).
One of the most significant motivations of an individual with BPD is to avoid abandonment, and, as a Sexual 6, I see that as a pretty significant motivation of my own.
Incidentally, the 6 enneatype is suggested to be correlated with either two very supportive and perhaps overprotective parents (moreso for phobic 6) or by trauma in childhood, and BPD is also closely related to traumatic childhood events and PTSD.
6s, Sxs, any thoughts?