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    Default 5 and trustworthy

    If someone is important to a five do they at the beginning test the other person's trust and if so, how?

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    If by "test" you mean "wait and see," then yes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by simbad View Post
    If someone is important to a five do they at the beginning test the other person's trust and if so, how?
    Whoever this person is that you keep asking about, you should stop looking at them through the Enneagram - then you'll know the answer to your own question.
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    Quote Originally Posted by simbad View Post
    If someone is important to a five do they at the beginning test the other person's trust and if so, how?
    Like Affably Evil I'm more likely to just wait and see. I don't really 'test' in the literal sense of the word. I gather information about the person and use that information to gauge the likelihood that the person is trustworthy. I think 6's are more prone to testing others trust.

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    I'm not inclined towards testing people or playing those kinds of games at all.
    I got my smile from the sunshine,
    I got my tears from the rain.
    I learned to dance when I saw a tiger prance,
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    A little owl in a tree so high,
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    No. I wait and see.
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    I don't think my 5 has ever tested me.

    Infact, maybe it's just my 5, but in ALL the relationships I've been in.. I've noticed that the 5 is hands-down the most authentic and raw with their thoughts and feelings. (when they decide to reveal-which is a bit rare) and think they might be the most equipped of all types to defend against emotional hijacking.

    In almost every relation I've ever been in there has been some kind of psychological game playing.. from very moderate to extreme.. and I've never seen the slightest, even the slightest tendency for my 5 to do this. It's probably the very best quality of our relationship, as we have been together for years now. I'm really glad to have that experience.. I think it's really healed me in alot of ways... because I haven't been able to play any kind of emotional games, be it power struggles, manipulation, guilt, I've had to take a good hard look at my own motivations, and been slapped in the face a few times when I've attempting to go to psychological war. OTOH.. IF my 5 had one weakness.. it would be sex. I've noticed it in a few 5's. If the sex is good and often enough.. you'll see a 5 become VERY sweet and tender.. but it's still on their own terms. A 5 won't tolerate emotional manipulation.. and I think because of this they also see NO NEED to manipulate another. They might watch and see, infact they prefer to do this.. they prefer to give you all the freedom in the world to be who you are.. so they know what they are getting into.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Huxley3112 View Post
    They might watch and see, infact they prefer to do this.. they prefer to give you all the freedom in the world to be who you are.. so they know what they are getting into.
    Yup, and also agree with the disinterest in emotional manipulation. People seem to expect it, though.

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    I'm dating a 5. He's never tested me. He does, however, call me on any inconsistencies immediately. I then have a chance to either explain myself or just shrug and say, "Eh."
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