I've been observing my bf to see if he tends to flee from unpleasant feelings or tries to embrace them. It seems that it's more of the former, and he occasionally jumps into panic-induced doses of television, music and games. I'm very certain now that he's a 9
Another thing that could be 9-like that I just noticed is his separation anxiety. He's always been 'alone' in a way, and always thought he was the solitary type, but now that he has moved away from home and is under massive stress, he just needs to be connected to someone. He keeps saying how much he hates to be alone and tells me never to leave. He's probably not in his healthiest stage right now, but I hate to see him so stressed out. How can I help to make him feel safe and loved? (Whenever he's stressed out, he seems to think I'm always on the verge of abandoning him >_<)
Also, 9 INFPs seem to have lack of boundaries issues, and I'm trying hard not to step on his, because I know he will probably let me. I don't want him to become what I want him to be. I want him to find himself, and to have the courage to be himself and find his place in the world -- that way he can be totally at peace, both with himself and with the outside world. Any advice on how to achieve this?