dearest enneagram forum perusers,
thank you for all your attentiveness in regards to my type. petra in particular.
so, i have recently settled into the idea of being some variety of 3/4 heart type.
however, i keep running into the same issues when trying to decide which is my primary type, and which is my wing:
Originally Posted by 3Originally Posted by 4
do you see what i mean? i have the internal hangups of a 3, but my responses to those hangups are 4ish in nature. i avoid failure and pursue identity. when i'm in trouble i tend to avoid, and lie if backed into a corner. and if still pressed, i break down and open up (though usually still with a "spin"... rarely, if ever, do i open up completely)
i have to sort through emotions before i can work. i am very forthright about my emotions, just not always the reasons why i feel that way. i do not have a "damaged" nor "in need of a rescuer" complex.
if i were to cross the river, i would probably try to do so in an aesthetic but enjoyable way, flipping and dolphin-twisting and diving. i love communing with water and feel beautiful in it. i relate with it, it feels like a part of me. and it's fun.
i feel like i embody 4/3 more readily, but i look at the 4 core motivations and i don't think i am a 4. unless my sense of "loss of individuality" was the result of always feeling "special" and being treated differently, and therefore believing i always needed to be special and different to be important. that could work.
whichever type i really am, my wing is really strong.