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    Hey there.

    Sexual Five seems a lot like a four to me, and this is where I get all stinkin' confused. Have you been confused, as in thought you were a four?

    I like to think I'm a Four (understanding myself seems to be paramount in my life), but my deal is I exhibit very sexual five-like behaviors. For example, intimacy for me means sharing confidences. Having a relationship where I can talk openly about things I don't talk about with anyone else... wow, does it give me a rush. This usually happens long-distance, either via internet or phone or texting. That lack of actual physical interaction makes me feel far more comfortable about opening up. Also, often the physical interaction seems superfluous, like why do we have to be physically present when talking is so special? Or even that the physical interaction would change things, taint them.

    Other people seem to perceive this as goofy, like a relationship isn't 'real' unless you are engaged in reality together. I counter that some of the most 'real' relationships I've had have been like this. And when this sort of relationship ends, it devastates me, because I no longer have someone to share my innermost thoughts and feelings with.

    I have person to person relationships as well- my husband, my children, a couple of friends. These are all very special to me and I value them highly. But I'm not open with them in the same way. With them I feel relatively stable and secure, but I also hide a lot. To share everything seems potentially hazardous, and I want these relationships to last forever.

    That's the appeal of a forum like this to me. I feel the need to share what's within, but I don't want to deal with the repercussions of sharing within my real life.

    How is it for you?
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    Quote Originally Posted by brainheart View Post
    Hey there.

    Sexual Five seems a lot like a four to me, and this is where I get all stinkin' confused. Have you been confused, as in thought you were a four?
    Sexual 5w4s are fourish and likely to be mistyped as four, but other than that, Sx people are likely to be mistyped as a general rule.


    Other people seem to perceive this as goofy, like a relationship isn't 'real' unless you are engaged in reality together.

    Yes, I think like this myself. You are not in a relationships if you can't actually touch the person.

    Here are severals examples of Sexuals 5s:

    [youtube=Mw8KJ29qph0]Jim Morrison 5w4 Sx/Sp[/youtube]
    [youtube=xEerEAerD48]Björk 5w4 Sx/Sp[/youtube]
    [youtube=Wqzn9F0GI1o]Kurt Cobain 5w4 Sx/Sp[/youtube]
    [youtube=BWOKtktYfP0]Thom Yorke 5w4 Sx/Sp[/youtube]

    [youtube=iREKEWdjAUU]John Lennon 5w4 Sx/So[/youtube]
    [youtube=8msBBzkJn_E]Patti Smith 5w4 Sx/So[/youtube]

    [youtube=OnA1N3cunOM]Jodie Foster 5w6 Sx/Sp[/youtube]

    [youtube=1m_OXH7n0Rw]Leon Trotsky 5w6 Sx/So[/youtube]
    [youtube=ez4rbj1AZGg]Howard Hughes 5w6 Sx/So[/youtube]
    [youtube=vQdrcPYSG28]Stan Lee 5w6 Sx/So[/youtube]
    [youtube=jaf0O2JTDkE]Gregory House 5w6 Sx/So[/youtube]
    [youtube=dplb8D3Rhdw]Mystery 5w6 Sx/So[/youtube][/
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    Thanks for the videos. Got any for 4w5s?

    What do you mean, sexual variants are usually mistyped?

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    Quote Originally Posted by brainheart View Post
    Thanks for the videos. Got any for 4w5s?

    What do you mean, sexual variants are usually mistyped?
    From my experience, a lot of people do seem to mistype the sexual 5w4s as 4s. Kurt Cobain and Bjork are perfect examples of people I've seen typed as 4s repeatedly. If you notice, the 5w4s tend to be very awkward in their interviews compared to the 5w6s so many equate strange and odd into being a 4.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thunderbringer View Post
    From my experience, a lot of people do seem to mistype the sexual 5w4s as 4s. Kurt Cobain and Bjork are perfect examples of people I've seen typed as 4s repeatedly. If you notice, the 5w4s tend to be very awkward in their interviews compared to the 5w6s so many equate strange and odd into being a 4.
    I don't think that people equate strange and odd with four, necessarily. I think people often consider Cobain and Bjork to be four because their music is very emotional- it hits them on an emotional level, and they strike them as people who like to delve deeply into their emotions. There is a romanticism to them.

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    I tend to be more confused for either 8 or 6. Sx loves to be 'on task' then 'off task' based upon interest; in addition one can chase the most interesting or the brightest light and easily discard any superfluous motivations. This can seem very 8 when taking charge because it is exactly how they are described, whereas it can also swing to appear like the defensive 6. But then as a 5w6, that is to be expected.

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    Quote Originally Posted by spamtar View Post
    I love a girl with a big fat pair of brains
    Well, that's helpful. Yes thank you. Although two brains... hmm

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    I just ended a relationship with someone who behaves much in the way the OP describes. He wanted to text and IM with me all day everyday and would only open up over IM. He didn't seem to place much importance on actually spending time together or physical contact and would clam up when talking in person. It felt very cold and distant to me, but I think anything other than what you describe would be extremely uncomfortable to him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JoSunshine View Post
    I just ended a relationship with someone who behaves much in the way the OP describes. He wanted to text and IM with me all day everyday and would only open up over IM. He didn't seem to place much importance on actually spending time together or physical contact and would clam up when talking in person. It felt very cold and distant to me, but I think anything other than what you describe would be extremely uncomfortable to him.
    I like time together, but I don't usually want to talk. A little time together also goes a long way for me. And when we're together I'd rather do non-talking things, connect on that level (in a romantic relationship). But yeah, I don't necessarily like people looking at me when I'm talking about personal stuff. It makes me feel very awkward.

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