Sexual Five seems a lot like a four to me, and this is where I get all stinkin' confused. Have you been confused, as in thought you were a four?
I like to think I'm a Four (understanding myself seems to be paramount in my life), but my deal is I exhibit very sexual five-like behaviors. For example, intimacy for me means sharing confidences. Having a relationship where I can talk openly about things I don't talk about with anyone else... wow, does it give me a rush. This usually happens long-distance, either via internet or phone or texting. That lack of actual physical interaction makes me feel far more comfortable about opening up. Also, often the physical interaction seems superfluous, like why do we have to be physically present when talking is so special? Or even that the physical interaction would change things, taint them.
Other people seem to perceive this as goofy, like a relationship isn't 'real' unless you are engaged in reality together. I counter that some of the most 'real' relationships I've had have been like this. And when this sort of relationship ends, it devastates me, because I no longer have someone to share my innermost thoughts and feelings with.
I have person to person relationships as well- my husband, my children, a couple of friends. These are all very special to me and I value them highly. But I'm not open with them in the same way. With them I feel relatively stable and secure, but I also hide a lot. To share everything seems potentially hazardous, and I want these relationships to last forever.
That's the appeal of a forum like this to me. I feel the need to share what's within, but I don't want to deal with the repercussions of sharing within my real life.
How is it for you?