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    When you start cutting creative smileys in your chest
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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
    When you start cutting creative smileys in your chest
    And don't mind talking about it openly.

    I don't have the scar anymore. It was almost half a decade ago.

    And it wasn't on my chest. Though I do have the scar from the time when I stabbed myself with a knife. And then there was that one time ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phoenix View Post
    Any tips on how you beat the first one? That's pretty much the bane of my existence.
    Oops, I meant second one, but come to think of it..I jeopardise those as well. Im just really good at making up for them eventually and warning people ahead. Both relate to my need to brood in a corner away from the world. So for the first one, when I feel a mood coming on and if I can, Ill excuse myself and isolate myself to figure out what is going on.If I cannot isolate myself, Ill withdraw emotionally from the situation to not make matters worse and do the Fe-politeness thing till I can be alone. If that isnt possible coz im too miserable..I make it up to them later and let them know in the monent that this isnt their fault, and that I am sorry for the inconvenience, and Ill be fine, they dont need to worry. With my so, who sees the most of these moods, it can be a bit tricky as his happiness is tied to mine, but he has learned over the years that it will be fine and that it is ok for me to be down, and it is ok for him to do nothing. It can still make him restless and oddly I often end up cuddling him to reassure him that it will be ok while i think things through

    I have yet to find a magical fix it..but I did find that with small stupid stuff, going to do something instead of brooding, like something i can handle and that needs doing anyways, can completely change my mood...unfortunately that mood often doesn want to go do somethign and so..the bolded thing bites me in the ass
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    Oops, I meant second one, but come to think of it..I jeopardise those as well. Im just really good at making up for them eventually and warning people ahead. Both relate to my need to brood in a corner away from the world. So for the first one, when I feel a mood coming on and if I can, Ill excuse myself and isolate myself to figure out what is going on.If I cannot isolate myself, Ill withdraw emotionally from the situation to not make matters worse and do the Fe-politeness thing till I can be alone. If that isnt possible coz im too miserable..I make it up to them later and let them know in the monent that this isnt their fault, and that I am sorry for the inconvenience, and Ill be fine, they dont need to worry. With my so, who sees the most of these moods, it can be a bit tricky as his happiness is tied to mine, but he has learned over the years that it will be fine and that it is ok for me to be down, and it is ok for him to do nothing. It can still make him restless and oddly I often end up cuddling him to reassure him that it will be ok while i think things through

    I have yet to find a magical fix it..but I did find that with small stupid stuff, going to do something instead of brooding, like something i can handle and that needs doing anyways, can completely change my mood...unfortunately that mood often doesn want to go do somethign and so..the bolded thing bites me in the ass
    Why is it that half the time your posts sound like I could have written them? I too have been warning my SO and other friends [at least the online ones - not the real life ones] about my moodiness and need to withdraw every once in a while.

    The bolded part ... about Fe-politness is extremely accurate about me as well -- but in a slightly different way. I kinda become a little short but coldly polite as opposed to really polite. I'm typically charming, so when I detach and try to isolate .. the most I can muster is words like "ok" .. "yah ..." and I keep repeating mundane questions to get the other person to continue talking while I'm actually in my own head.

    Do you also sometimes start feeling fake and inauthentic when just being polite, while wanting to express exactly how and why you're feeling a certain way? Maybe that's more of a 4w3 thing.

    For me it's one of the most difficult binds for me .. The result is actually kinda amusing [now in retrospect anyways] .. it's like in the moment, the feelings are beyond intense and I end up saying/acting in a way that makes another person worried .. yet, I don't actually want them to worry .. yet I do want them to at least show some concern .. and then when I don't get that kind of concern I continue to act in ways that'll get the desired response.

    Maybe it's because I'm tertiary Fe as well and therefore kinda manipulative with other people's feeings [really ashamed about that]. So knowing that I manipulate, I try not to manipulate but still end up doing it anyways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phoenix View Post
    Why is it that half the time your posts sound like I could have written them? I too have been warning my SO and other friends [at least the online ones - not the real life ones] about my moodiness and need to withdraw every once in a while.

    The bolded part ... about Fe-politness is extremely accurate about me as well -- but in a slightly different way. I kinda become a little short but coldly polite as opposed to really polite. I'm typically charming, so when I detach and try to isolate .. the most I can muster is words like "ok" .. "yah ..." and I keep repeating mundane questions to get the other person to continue talking while I'm actually in my own head.

    Do you also sometimes start feeling fake and inauthentic when just being polite, while wanting to express exactly how and why you're feeling a certain way? Maybe that's more of a 4w3 thing.

    For me it's one of the most difficult binds for me .. The result is actually kinda amusing [now in retrospect anyways] .. it's like in the moment, the feelings are beyond intense and I end up saying/acting in a way that makes another person worried .. yet, I don't actually want them to worry .. yet I do want them to at least show some concern .. and then when I don't get that kind of concern I continue to act in ways that'll get the desired response.

    Maybe it's because I'm tertiary Fe as well and therefore kinda manipulative with other people's feeings [really ashamed about that]. So knowing that I manipulate, I try not to manipulate but still end up doing it anyways.

    Mmm..I guess that it is the Fe that makes a difference. What I try to do, to not worry the other person in a convo, is focus solely on them and what they are saying, despite it being hard, so I can end the convo swiftly and neatly and excuse myself asap. The reason I do this is because experience has taught me that if I allow my mood to seep through when I havent had time to reflect yet (Fi), I will overload the person without wanting to and Ill feel ridiculous, exposed and ashamed of myself, instead of getting the help I need.

    Though I too swing to the 2 dark side occasionally Ill do it by..I dunno how to express this....ehm, by 'appearing' sort of not present instead of saying something. People automatically respond to that with like extra care and asking like 'are you alright?' which i can shrug off, meaning I dont have to have the disastrous convo of doom, while letting them 'feel' Im a bit off today. I try to do this only with people who know me somewhat and who I know actually enjoy my presence and not at more formal events with like acquaintances and strangers only. That way, I often can put in that I actually just need some space and they will be most understanding, while I do feel like they care. I try very hard *not* to do this, but on days where Im melancholic, blue and gloomy and I cannot change that mood, it turns into brooding and others do notice. I actually enjoy that state to a certain degree, and I try telling people not to worry about it and just let me enjoy their company in quiet..which seems to work. It is kinda funny to see how people sort of..feel the need to like check you out coz you are vibing 'off' (my w5 finds it an intriguing experiment ) Most people do respect your wishes when you vibe off, and you seem like you can handle it (and if there is one thing I can handle, its my moods), so they just let you be in peace, which I very much appreciate Aside from that, most people seem to find it a curious thing, poking you a little (which can be a nice distraction) and actually enjoying it as entertainment..which helps alleviate my guilt of doing it.

    As for feeling fake (I identify with both w3 and w5 btw)..that only happens when I truly am deep in those moodswings, as usually my Fi feels guilty about bothering others with this and I learned a long time ago that people really dont *wanna* know and I should respect their wishes. Its my crap to deal with, not theirs, after all. As I said, the dark side of the 2 isnt unknown to me though I will try to minimise the damage by just reassuring people I will be ok and that I just want to be near them. In my darkest moments, when nobody takes notice, I can get irrationally resentful, but it usually ends up making me smile at the resentment as I realise that it isn't their job nor their fault as Im not speaking up. And that in itself can give me some relief, as it allows me to look ironically at the mood that initiated this whole thing. It does not always break it, but I find a sort of bittersweet enjoyment out of riding it out

    As for manipulation..we all need to have our dose of oxytocine and feel like we are cared for, especially in our darker hours, and we all reach out/manipulate other people to get it. I try to minimise the negative impact my reaching out would cause to people, and I try to show myself the compassion I would show someone else in my position. This is a need I have, and I shouldnt chastise myself for trying to fulfil it, as long as I try to do it in a minimally invasive way for the other person and preferably in a way that they too get enjoyment out
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    I haven't read all of these, but i don't really relate to the ones i've read. I can't believe I ever thought i was a 4w5.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phoenix View Post
    And don't mind talking about it openly.

    I don't have the scar anymore. It was almost half a decade ago.

    And it wasn't on my chest. Though I do have the scar from the time when I stabbed myself with a knife. And then there was that one time ...
    showoff
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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
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    I know .. it's that damn 3 wing.

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    -when you prick your finger with a pen and use the blood to draw on a math test XD (actually seen this irl, it was kinda cool)

    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousFeeling View Post
    - Something from the past haunts you, it's like a ghost never quite leaves your presence, and it makes you feel like an empty vessel, yearning to be filled.
    this can also extend to 4 wings
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    "What's a 4 all about again?"

    "I'm a four."

    "You can't be a four, THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE! *draws sword*"


    true story.

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