Control over self is a good thing. Not going to try to modify this one bit. Control over environment and people is something I've worked on for awhile with some successes and failures. The older I get, the less I need to be in charge unless the person(s) in charge are doing anything less than a reasonable job. Then the need flares up again. A work in progress and as instinctual as 8's are, particulary 8w7s with variant sx/sp, will be a lifelong work in progress.~ A deep desire, nay, compulsion for control over self, environment and people.
Don't know if you've noticed but I'm quite open on TypeC, in some ways wide, wide open down to the core of me and in other ways, very private, particularly when it comes to common sense issues like giving out name, phone number or location and a number of other things that I feel are no one else's business.~ Inability to allow vulnerability.
If when I've revealed vulnerability and someone has used it against me, they will never be able to hurt me again since their opinion has stopped counting. If anything, they're considered a waste of any further time or energy.
By knowing and accepting that no one can control me unless I consciously or subconsciously give them permission.~ A fear of being controlled by others.
Kasper, there maybe some members who disagree with what I'm going to say next but tough!
You're a Fe user so the way that's comfortable with myself as a Fi user, might not work for you.