this thread is sparked by the tom condon videos elsewhere. they really touched a nerve for me as an e5. i spoke with a female friend who knows quite a few females dating other e5 males who provided kind of a wake up call for me too.
commitment issues? boundary issues? indecisiveness? stutter of action? fear of being overwhelmed by external forces? lack of affection?
i know it's gotta be different for intp, intj, and infj. i feel like infjs struggle the most to figure out what is right for them. whereas intps have the most difficulty feeling emotion, and intjs have the most difficulty emotionally CONNECTING.
the tom condon videos talked about feeling like one's will is overwhelmed and obscured by a hypersensitve reaction to the needs o others and an immediate response pulling in the opposite direction to assert an overly strong boundary because the previous one was too thin. it talked about identifying one's power with external forces, both positively and negatively, rather than getting up the courage to make one's own decisions and instead overthinking/trying to discover more information rather than remove extraneous.
does this resonate? has anyone figured this out? e5s who have strong relationship perspectives or others who can pinpoint keys to e5 growth?