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    Post type 9 and friendships

    I do not think that there is a thread for this, so...
    Let's talk about how type 9s can use their powers to ruin friendships










    *examples would look beautiful in this thread, don't you think?*
    Last edited by thoughtlost; 12-19-2014 at 09:04 AM.
    You are so arbitrary.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thoughtlost View Post
    Let's talk about how type 9s can use their powers to ruin friendships


    yessss I hate friendshipssssss...
    Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.
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    How would 9s do that?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Morning Star View Post
    How would 9s do that?
    ...I am sure they can? Just we don't talk about it. Any type can, right? I feel like the talk about 9s is one-sided... as if all they do is just simply avoid making people feel bad.
    Also, there is a chance I am a 9 too ...and I feel like I have destroyed a friendship; this is just to gather some ideas on how this happens across people of this type.

    Edit:: Would you like to hear how I think I have screwed things up?
    You are so arbitrary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gromit View Post


    yessss I hate friendshipssssss...
    ......

    lol jkjkjk

    But I really like feeling really close to one person and being my best for her. It has only happened once, but man, it is an amazing feeling. I liken it to having a special place in someone's pocket. And the person carries me around with her no matter where she goes, who and what she sees and what she feels.
    You are so arbitrary.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thoughtlost View Post
    ...I am sure they can? Just we don't talk about it. Any type can, right? I feel like the talk about 9s is one-sided... as if all they do is just simply avoid making people feel bad.
    Also, there is a chance I am a 9 too ...and I feel like I have destroyed a friendship; this is just to gather some ideas on how this happens across people of this type.

    Edit:: Would you like to hear how I think I have screwed things up?
    Ah, now I get what you mean. Your post did remind me of a time in junior high school when I ended my friendship with a sweet (but talkative) girl named Ariel, just because my sister told me to [though also partly because the endless talking used to drain my energy, which looking back on it I wasn't quite able to realize/put into adequate words at the time - it wasn't until my senior year of high school that I found out I was introverted]. I still regret it to this day, and wish I could apologize. Not really sure if this would count in the thread here, though...

    I'd be interested in hearing your story, in any case. I'm always looking for stories from other people, I find myself engrossed in them as if they were real-life novels.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thoughtlost View Post
    Would you like to hear how I think I have screwed things up?
    Obviously!
    Your kisses, sweeter than honey. But guess what, so is my money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thoughtlost View Post
    I do not think that there is a thread for this, so...
    Let's talk about how type 9s can use their powers to ruin friendships
    Inattention. Failure to stay in touch. Overloading themselves with activities and tasks they are doing for strangers.

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    lol, I will do my best for you guys to honor your wish!

    *la la land music....*

    I haven't had many opportunities to feel so close to someone that we become one, but just over a year ago, such an opportunity arrived. It did not just arrive, it ripped my heart right out of my chest and I will never forget both the pain and the ecstatic joy I felt. She would always invite me to have breakfast lunch and dinner with her, and every time... no matter what I was doing, I would say yes, as if my life depended on it. Being with her was like no other experience I have ever had (and I am not joking).

    So things would go smoothly, yet bumpy at the same time. I would say things and it looked like I was upsetting her. I wanted to get to the heart of the matter immediately, but I felt deflected each time. Once (or twice or thrice...) she would do things that would make me feel a bit unheard ...and it would send me to into a state of despair where that would be all I could think about...

    I would try to talk about it, but was deflected. And it left me feeling like a fool... like a crazy person. So I tried to bury my feelings with that- that I am just a crazy over-emotional/sensitive person.


    But finally and recently, those feelings have come back to haunt me. The same friend I have been talking about has had issues with another, and this other friend has had the same feelings I have felt. So much so that I cannot ignore it. She feels unheard and misunderstood, just like I have. Because I can relate to the feeling so well, I am unable to be unbiased and when I talk to her, the one who has provided me with so much joy in such a short time, yet I can never feel like myself around...

    So when that same friend decides to complain about the issue at hand, I feel so strongly for the girl who feels unheard... that I can not properly see where she is coming from. I become blindsided by my own hurt that I ignore the hurt of another, the one I care about more than myself.

    We have not officially fallen out (there has been official speaking of how she feels and how I feel), but I am sure my best friend feels betrayed by me. She can no longer depend on me to always see where she is coming from.

    I feel as if I have crushed her soul.... and now I have crushed mine.

    The end.
    You are so arbitrary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thoughtlost View Post
    lol, I will do my best for you guys to honor your wish!

    *la la land music....*

    I haven't had many opportunities to feel so close to someone that we become one, but just over a year ago, such an opportunity arrived. It did not just arrive, it ripped my heart right out of my chest and I will never forget both the pain and the ecstatic joy I felt. She would always invite me to have breakfast lunch and dinner with her, and every time... no matter what I was doing, I would say yes, as if my life depended on it. Being with her was like no other experience I have ever had (and I am not joking).

    So things would go smoothly, yet bumpy at the same time. I would say things and it looked like I was upsetting her. I wanted to get to the heart of the matter immediately, but I felt deflected each time. Once (or twice or thrice...) she would do things that would make me feel a bit unheard ...and it would send me to into a state of despair where that would be all I could think about...

    I would try to talk about it, but was deflected. And it left me feeling like a fool... like a crazy person. So I tried to bury my feelings with that- that I am just a crazy over-emotional/sensitive person.


    But finally and recently, those feelings have come back to haunt me. The same friend I have been talking about has had issues with another, and this other friend has had the same feelings I have felt. So much so that I cannot ignore it. She feels unheard and misunderstood, just like I have. Because I can relate to the feeling so well, I am unable to be unbiased and when I talk to her, the one who has provided me with so much joy in such a short time, yet I can never feel like myself around...

    So when that same friend decides to complain about the issue at hand, I feel so strongly for the girl who feels unheard... that I can not properly see where she is coming from. I become blindsided by my own hurt that I ignore the hurt of another, the one I care about more than myself.

    We have not officially fallen out (there has been official speaking of how she feels and how I feel), but I am sure my best friend feels betrayed by me. She can no longer depend on me to always see where she is coming from.

    I feel as if I have crushed her soul.... and now I have crushed mine.

    The end.
    Aww it can be difficult when you feel more sympathy for the one who shared the same feelings you did, than for your best friend. Is there any way you could have both talked openly to each other about this?
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